How do you ask out a girl that you don't even know?

Question

I just wanted to know how do you ask out a girl that you have never even spoken to?

There is a girl who works at my university library that I really like. But the problem is that we have never even spoke, actually thats not exactly true. She once asked me if I needed any help. But other than that, she probably does not even know I exist.

Wouldn't it seem wierd for a guy to ask out a girl that he does not even know? I'm not usher or justin timberlake, I can't just go up to a girl in the street and say "hey sexy, i saw you from across the room, and i wanna take you out for dinner".

How do I know if she even likes me back? what if she has a boyfriend? I really like this girl, but people don't usually ask out girls that they don't know. What should I do?

Answer 1

Okay first of all, and most importantly Usher and Timberlake totally suck @ss. I get your point, but need to make that clear.

Now to your problem. The good thing is you can talk to this girl. She works at a library, that means all you need to do is ask her to help you find a book. Or at a University library ask her how to get started on your research paper (those take hours upon hours to do) and that there will break the ice. Then when you come back you can thank her for her help and from there you can talk to her like a normal person.

So what if she has a boyfriend or doesn't like you back. The worst that can happen is you don't go out with her, but that's what the case is right now.

Answer 2

Stalk her. Not in a creppy way, but start going into the library more often. Once you have been in about 3 times and she has seen you, she will recognise your face. Then you can start asking for assistance, like where is the history book called blahblah. Then after a a couple of visits and asking for asistance, she should now recognise you and you are on hello basis...now is your time to talk about the weekend/hobbies/interests. This is also a good time to see if she is in a relationship by asking casual questions but don't sound like your snooping. Hopefully you have something in common and can suggest you go to a gig/art show/film etc. together. This is a lengthy process but it can be done in 2 weeks and it's a lot less painful than a rejection. If nothing else you can be mates.

Answer 3

Well, as a woman, I suggest that you engage in some small talk with her. dont ask her out on a date the first time you actually hold a longer than 2min conversation. you have to make her feel that she can trust you and she would have to feel comfortable. I think you should approach her with a subject that you know nothing about, let say 18th century european art, and ask her for some books on it. This will give you time to engage in some small talk. for example, "where are you from, how do you like school, what is your major? things like this. she has to gain familiarity with you before you can ask her out. just be confident and try this approach ok.. good luck:O)

Answer 4

You should actually engage her in conversation to make sure you like her and that she has an interest in you. Get to know her before you ask her out. Actually, would you go out with a woman who had never spoken to you, didn't know your relationship status and you'd only spoken to them once in a professional context? Uh, no.

Though you may not mean it this way, I think its a little creepy that you want to ask out someone you've never spoken to. I don't know of too many women that would find that an admirable trait in a man. Rethink your strategy.

Answer 5

So she works at this 'library' right?

Good then its easy to get to know her, you just need to ask her for help. But you want her to know that you are a red-blooded male too...

so ask her where the 'erotica' section is. Then show her some you brought along.

That should get the ball rolling

Answer 6

Do you know how good it makes a girl feel to be asked out by a total stranger? Just go for it, what you got to loose?

Answer 7

I think you've already answered your own question. If you don't know her, first step is to strike up a conversation and get to know her. And if you come up and just ask her for a date (without her knowing her), you're going to get shot down fast. Just talk to her and see where things go.

Answer 8

What do you mean people don't ask people they don't know! Of coure they do, do you really think that everyone in a relationship knew each other first!!
Just ask her out!

Answer 9

frist start by introducing your self to her and go from there

Answer 10

hey man! slow down...........it's easy as ABC...try to get to know her first,from there,you will find out if she's willing to get to know you as well...