2006-10-02 03:15:04 · 13 answers · asked by ok2beme80 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It depends.
Is your spouse confiding in her or drawing her into your issues?
If they are, it is their duty to stop doing that because that basically gives your in-law permission to butt in.
The only way to get someone to butt out is to stop involving them in the issue in any way shape or form (conversations, asking for advice, financial assistance, etc).
2006-10-02 03:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try becoming closer to her, if you make the effort to get to know her better she may understand when you ask her for a bit of space. Without more details it is hard to answer this question, I mean my in laws live next door (across a field) and i LOVE it, i dunno what i would do without her some days =) Are there specific things she is doing or saying that you find interfering, or is she merely not expressing the same views you are and don't feel like dealing with her?
Best of luck
2006-10-02 10:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her on a two week cruise to Alaska and while she's gone pack up lock, stock and barrel and leave no forwarding address.
Trust me there's no talking to the mother -out- law, maybe you should let your wife speak to her while you put your foot down.
Set up some boundaries and she will have to accept them or suffer the consequences.
2006-10-02 10:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your job to get your mother-in-law to do anything. That is the job of your spouse. You & the spouse are partners, & should be forming a united front against any outside interference.
So if you have an issue with the mother-in-law, then take it to your spouse, & have him/her handle it.
2006-10-02 10:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that you appreciate her opinion, and you will consider taking her advice, or don't tell her anything that's going on in your lives that way she can't butt in if she don't know. if these tactics don't work ask your husband what you both should do about this? if all else fails go to counseling and maybe they can help you. good luck, i know this is a very touchy subject. basically, she does not want to let go of her baby boy.
2006-10-02 10:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her " I don't mean to hurt your feelings but BUTT OUT" If she doesn't like it, tough,It is Your life and you have the right to be happy and live it as you wish. Or you can start meddling in her business and see if she likes it.
2006-10-02 10:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by tang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and get your own Mother to live with you.
2006-10-02 10:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the subject, tell her everything is fine and if she persists tell her " gee, that is a great idea" then go home and forget about it.
2006-10-02 10:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by cruisingalong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you feel like your marriage is suffering because she won't let ya'll work things out yourself.
2006-10-02 10:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use her daughter or son (your wife/husband). Let them put it to her that they are the ones who don't want her interfearing in their affairs.
2006-10-02 10:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by Nelson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋