This guy and I have been dating for 5 weeks. He was calling every night, making sure I was happy, walking me to my door, complementing me. Things I was not used to with guys and I told him that. He said that he saw us in a long term relationship. We slept together twice, I haven't seen him a couple weeks. He is going through a job change and I want to give him the benifit of the doubt. Every time I talk to him he is very sincere and wants a relationship but it takes 4 or 5 days to return calls I know the whole "get what they want and leave" thing but he didn't start acting like this right after we slept together it was about a week and a half later. I tried calling him on it, asking him to be honest and just tell me, but he insists that he was to be with me. Then he acts like this. He is dealing with a lot of stress from his job change, his old boss does not want him to leave and is giving him major guilt and grief, plus he has to finish up a bunch of cases before he leaves. ???
2006-10-02 03:14:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hun, back off or you might lose him.
Don't force yourself on him. Wait for him to call you. If he asked why you haven't been in touch, act all casual and say "I thought I'd give you some space".
From an outsiders point of view, it seems as if you are constantly questioning his motives, and his plans for the future.
Relax, and enjoy what you have. Don't spoil it by frightening the poor bloke away!!!
2006-10-02 03:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him the benefit of the doubt, but I also would stop calling him. I am of the belief that a man will call if he is sincere. So maybe he will call you once you decide not to call him---I know first hand that this is hard, but it can be done, because a lot of guys do get antsy when we call them too much.
There are a few things that could be going on: he really could be under serious stress from the job change(but I think a call takes only 5 minutes. It could also be that he got cold feet---or he is afraid of his own feelings. Either way, I would stick it out for a couple of weeks and then let go of it...depending on weather he calls me or not....good luck
2006-10-02 10:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just quit calling him and asking him anything..Give him some time to get things figured out in his life and if he is wanting a relationship with you he will be calling you when he sees that you are not calling him the relationship is still very early..I think if he really thought a whole lot about it he will be calling you real soon after he sees u are not calling him..when he does call you tell him you was giving him his time and that you were taking time also to know what you wanted and watch him come a crawling..remember don't give in real easy and I know that is hard to do but if you want him you need to play hard to get and he will be putty in your hands if he really does like you..
2006-10-02 10:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by browneye_ky_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you this to remind you of basic facts of life. Men as a general rule can only do one thing at a time and if he is going through a job change it can be equated stresswise to a death in the family or a divorce; very very stressful. Give him your support and help however you can; he simply cannot handle anything more at this time. Men can only single task; women can multi-task. Ask somebody older and wiser to confirm this for you if you wish.
2006-10-02 10:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hummm
this is a hard one...
I wouldn't stop talking to him or seeing... I would just start going out with my friends and start having fun while he deals with his problems.... But, I will give him about 2 weeks to get his stuff straight.. Because if a man can't handle stress from a job than he is someone you might want to rethink on being with.. They tend to bring that stuff home and from personal experience it is not pleasant...Some can't handle stress that well..You could also try #2 option and that is stop calling him see if he notices and calls you...
2006-10-02 10:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by brookney2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he has a mistress and it is called work. A job change is very stressful and he is trying to please his old boss and new boss.
He may be shielding you from the stress of work that he is experiencing. Ask him directly about the job change and how things are going. Give him some space if he needs it.
2006-10-02 10:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your either putting to much pressure on him calling all the time or he has a bit of fluff on the side. Dont contact him for about 5 days see if he calls you. the human always wants what he doesnt have! maybe bump into him by accident one day with another male, even if its your brother he hasnt met get him thinkin
2006-10-02 10:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking 4 or 5 days to call you back is unacceptable.
2006-10-02 10:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by dream_harts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you have been dumped and this is excuses from him. He probably wants the possibility of sex with you again so he doesnt just say bye bye. You need to get the love and respect you deserve so that you can have a health family and be with someone who wants to grow old with you.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-10-02 10:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there and see if he comes back around after the job thing. If it doesn't change after that move on....
2006-10-02 10:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋