My long distance bf is friends with a girl that he met when we were broken up and is trying to establish a friendship with her. We have discussed the issue and he said that I have nothing to worry about and said that he will not call her all the time like he used to and keep a distance. He claims he doesnt like her more than a friend.
A month later I proceeded to ask him how often he calls her now and if she calls him at all. If he knows she likes him or not or is misunderstanding his gesture. He said he asked her and she said not (but also claims he cant really tell if she is telling the truth).
Anyhow, he got upset and said that I am not taking his word and trusting him and he wants to break up with me if I can't trust him.
I see his point about me not trusting him because I ask questions when I am insecure.
What do you think? Agree or disagree?
2006-10-02 03:08:47 · 11 answers · asked by xxginaleexx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he has nothing to hide, then he won't mind telling you. Something similar happened to me. My ex kept talking to this girl who was "just a friend". I would ask if he's talking to her and for how long and he wouldn't want to tell me because he didn't want me getting upset. I told him that my life was an open book to him and I would tell him anything he wanted to know, but he didn't have that respect for me. We eventually broke up and now he's "more than friends" with that girl. I'm not sure if that's what's going on here, but follow your instincts.
2006-10-02 03:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it is a long distance relationship, you should be aware of the fact that they seldom, if ever, work out. Can you really blame him for wanting company when he's there and you're wherever you are? Chances are if you two aren't near each other, he will eventually break it off and find someone local who he actually gets to see.
Not to sound mean, but thats the way those things generally work.
2006-10-02 10:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by iswd1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldnt want to end thingss cuz your having trouble trusting. Srry but its kinda F'ed up that he is trying to become good friends with this gurl, that he ovbiuosly wants to screw. And he should value your relationship more than some chick.
2006-10-02 10:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by dream_harts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not equate not trusting him.
If he truly loves you he will not be threating you with separation because you wanted to know the level of friendship between him and the lady friend.
2006-10-02 10:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should take his word, my partner has plenty of male friends and I trust her. It also depends on the situation will he allow you to meet her so you can see for your self then you can make your mind up if its ok
2006-10-02 10:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by spunkster12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right that you are not trusting him, but that doesn't mean it wrong for you to ask. After all aren't you in a relationship with him?
2006-10-02 10:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you don't trust him. The fact that you're even bringing it up would indicate that. He has already told you he's interested in her as friends only.
Her motives may be the one in question.
2006-10-02 10:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to have trust with a long distance relationship and if ur unsure then its not going to work.
2006-10-02 10:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by jasminenlady07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...
2006-10-02 10:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you can't even trust him, then you guys should split up.
2006-10-02 10:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋