I have a boyfriend whom I love very much...we have been together for 4 months...but i like this guy and he likes me too...he asked me out and i simply said no...but he thinks we are destined to be together...what do i do???
2006-10-02 03:02:04 · 8 answers · asked by Daniella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you to everyone...I think that i just need to realize that I have something good going for me right now and I don't need someone screwing it up regardless if I like the guy or not...Maybe you guys are right...Maybe he is just messing with me and when I break up with my boyfriend he totally screws me over...Thanks again
2006-10-02 03:17:31 · update #1
Tell him to bugger off and quit stalking you? If you LOOOVE your boyfriend, as you claim, then you dont want to lose him right? Couldnt bear to see him hurt or in the arms of another girl? If you DONT love your boyfriend (and couldnt care less if he moved on) this should be an easy answer....dump him and see the new guy.
You just have to weight up what you want right now. Keep in mind that guys usually want what they cant have...its an ego thing. If you were to become available....he might not find you as hot as he did before. All to do with "the chase" hun....its more fun chasing than getting...for men.
Now that the new guy has laid his cards on the table...ie he doesnt want to be platonic friends, he has other needs in mind...therefore to continue to talk to him will mean that he has power over your bf (what a head trip for him) and it will be a blow to your bf...who if you claim you love...doesnt need that kind of humiliation/anxiety or ego smack (unless he doesnt really love you back of course and makes you feel that something is missing).
2006-10-02 03:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who asked you has to realise that you are currently involved with your boyfriend right now, and it would not be appropriate for him to make a move on you, no matter how much you may like him.
Tell him that you are in a committed relationship. Ask him how he'd feel if his girlfriend started cheating on him. Tell him once more that you can't go behind your boyfriend's back, no matter how tempting the offer, so no. Simple as that.
If he can't take the message, tell your boyfriend about it, and make sure you and he both explain things to the other guy. Hopefully, the other guy will see reason and back off.
2006-10-02 10:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get your head out of the clouds and come back down to earth.
You should take phrases like "destined to be together" out of your vocabulary. They blind you to trying to make things perfect.
I say that because the choice is not up to fate or God, it's up to you. Who do you want to be with, not who do think you are fated to be with. 4 months isn't that long, if you like this new guy that much you should give him a chance. If you just FEEL you are fated to be with new guy but you are really in love with your boyfriend than don't throw away a good thing over a feeling.
2006-10-02 10:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but if you were truely in love then you would not have feelings for another guy. You need to examine your current relationship, and see if you are really in love or just comfortable.
2006-10-02 10:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by j3572h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your boyfriend, don't mess it up for yourselves.
Stay away from this dude....not worth it!
2006-10-02 10:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by megh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend, don't pay attention to this guy!
2006-10-02 10:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by caddyShack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to get in your pants....no GUY uses the word destiny unless hes trying to get a piece...then he gets a piece and ...BYE! now you have no boyfriend, no "destiny" , and you feel cheap and nasty....what are the benefits here?
2006-10-02 10:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by nikki m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with your bf, then, if you break up, go for the other guy
2006-10-02 10:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋