It seems to be the culture where I work. I always felt it should be for family & friends of the deceased. Besides, I hate funerals. Is this common practice?
2006-10-02 02:43:48 · 14 answers · asked by CoronaGirl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I've never heard of this, especially if I wasn't close to someone. It would be weird for me to be among those cherishing and revealing in the joys of a person's life, when I didn't partake in any of them. I guess it's a nice gesture, to share in the grief, but.. personally I find it more respectful to let a family grieve around genuine sympathizers, then to have a complete stranger show up because it was office mandated.
Show your coworker your compassion but skip the actual services! ~Be well!
2006-10-02 02:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Manatee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show up for a few minutes at the viewing, usually a day or two before the actual funeral. Sign the book, make sure the company sent some flowers, offer a condolence hug to the coworker and leave. That will mean a lot to the griever and might take an hour out of your day when they needs a hug or handshake. It also depends upon how long you have been coworkers and your relationship with said coworker.
2006-10-02 03:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by bullybrian2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the co-worker is a very good friend I would go. I don't like funerals either, but I go for a good friend as a sign of respect and support for them. Funerals are really for the living, not the dead. It is part of the process that helps people come to terms with death even when they don't fully understand why it happened. It is a sad and uncomfortable bit of time, but in the end your friend remembers that you took a moment of your time to share their sadness and that they weren't alone.
2006-10-02 02:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by jigsawinc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is nice to show the family that the co-worker meant something to the company. you can go as a group to the viewing with others from work so it gives a showing from work. if you were close to the co-worker at work you should go to the funeral also.
2006-10-02 02:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by bmiamom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your relationship with the co-worker. If you are 'close' and eat breakfast or lunch together, occassionally hang out after work and you talk about your family, definitely. But if you see your co-worker in the hallway or elevator and you avoid eye contact or act like they're invisible. I would say, no. Give condolences or chip in when they collect for the flowers and card.
2006-10-02 02:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how close you are to the co-worker. There are only a few of mine whose family funerals I would attend. I hope I don't have to, too soon.
2006-10-02 03:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how close or friendly you are to the coworker. If you are real close or friendly you go. If not send a condolence card and/or flowers. Most offices/co-workers go in for flowers/ fruit basket with a group card.
2006-10-02 02:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by damisaunders@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't do funerals... even close family... I think they are just plain stupid !! The heck with customs of the culture !!
The idea of feeding all these people who may or may not of even been friends to the deceased is beyond me !! Stupid I tell you, STUPID !!
2006-10-02 03:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it would be directly related to thee relationship I have with that particular co-worker. If I have a close relationship with them, I would definitely go. If th co-worker is only a casual acquaintance, I'd probably send flowers or some other condolence.
2006-10-02 02:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only go if I was close to the co-worker and if I knew the person who passed. Instead of going you could send flowers or send a sympathy card to your co-worker.
2006-10-02 02:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by momof3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋