why do people find fat people so unattractive?

Question

cause i am 16 and i have not been out with anyone but all my
"skinny " friends have got boyfriends. i think all people find me unattractive!

Answer 1

You need to be more confident in yourself. Alot of my friends who are overweight with big personalities have brilliant relationships. The ones who are withdrawn and feel bad about themselves are alone.

The way you are seen underneath is very important. I have met people that i dont fancy at first but once i get to know them i have feelings for them. Happened many times!!

Dont give up. Just try to be more confident. Your time will come

Answer 2

You should really have more faith in your self. If you don't like you then people sense this. Apart from that though there certainly is a multitude of reasons why skinny people are considered attractive. Consider films, magazines, the music business etc. There is a specific model of woman (and man) being promoted - arguably as a result of the consumer society in which we live in.

This is how I understand this: If we all believe the hype then we will all consume more: Hair products, diet products, skinny designer clothes, uncomfortable but 'chic' shoes etc. Meaning that we go on consuming to look exactly like the famous people we have been brainwashed to admire.

Go onto the Tate and the National Gallery website and find some Renaissance paintings. Women portraying are 'chubby' or just plain fat because that was the beauty ideal at that time. Fat meant that you were happy, content and lead a healthy life. Weird huh?

You are 16. I bet you are a lot better than that and can see beyond all the hype while always staying healthy. Not too fat - not too skinny, just happy with your self because YOU think so and not some magazine told you so.

Answer 3

First of all a 16 year old boy is only going to think about looks; most of them anyway. They don't notice personality and how you are on the inside. When I was 13 I was overweight, so you know what I went to Barbizon Modeling School for a year. Talk about a self confidence booster~~ as soon as I started thinking I was pretty, here come they guys. If you have the confidence to go up to a guy and say Hi, how are you, what about that game last night or whatever, you too will be dating in no time. Its not just because they are "skinny" its because their confidence shines through. You are what you see yourself as. When you get up in the morning, look in the mirror and say, "you are so pretty, wow girl you go it going on today, put on some good music and dance a little. I bet you it will make a difference, it did for me. Good Luck~ and anybody that doesn't like you for who you are in the long run~ ain't worth knowing !!

Answer 4

It's not always fat that puts people off, I always thought that but really it was the fact that I didn't like myself. Other people picked up on that. I know it's hard to be a teenager, especially in this day and age but it will get easier. Focus on your friends instead of boyfriends, have fun and go out. You don't need a man to define you and if you worry too much about this you'll look back at your childhood and realise that none of it mattered.

Answer 5

Its just part of the modern age. Until the beginning of the 20th century, it was not considered fashionable to be thin. also, if you look at old paintings most of the models are a larger size because this is what was considered attractive at the time. Some countries and cultures today still find larger women attractive and fat is seen as a sign that you are healthy. Its just based on what society dictates to us.

Answer 6

Just think about it. You don't want to read what I am going to type.

Unless you have some sort of severe medical issue, it shows that you are undisciplined to keep your body under control. Granted, the saying goes that beauty is only skin deep, isn't really true. People can have great personalities and be great people, but that isn't what attracts people to others. Generally, it is something about their physical appearance.

You can have a skinny person who is really nice looking, but if they are dressed in rags and greasy clothes, they may not get the attention that is due them. It takes away from who they are.

I would lose weight; not because you want to compete with your "skinny" friends, but because it is healthy and it will help you with how you are feeling about yourself.

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Answer 7

Not all 'fat' people are unattractive. I know many female friends who are larger that others but they have a great smile, live life to the full and their personality draws people to them. Just be yourself, your only young yet, don't try to be what you're not and in time you'll find someone. Good luck

Answer 8

Because we have skinnies thrown at us in all directions. It is not fat that is unattractive (think back to the 1800's, fat was considered sexy, rich and bountiful) but it is the lack of confidence which fatter people seem to suffer from. Learn to love yourself as you are and be confident and happy. There is somebody out there for you as well (in fact a lot of somebodies!!!))

P.S. I am a fatty also!

Answer 9

because our society has made everyone feel you have to be a size 2 to be attractive, see the magazines with 80lb models, tv, etc...
people believe and follow the trends of hollywood, the only thing bad about being overweight is medically it is not health and increased fat on the body makes the heart work harder.
as far as appearence no matter the size of a person, we are all beautiful in our own right, don't let anyone tell you different..

Answer 10

I know you are beautiful - you should too.
In many cultures and societies Fatness is considered beautiful and skinny girls dont get a look in.
true beauty comes from within. If your soul/mind is beautiful (which I am sure it is) then many will soon begin to see it shining forth like a beacon. Try this:
Smile and say goodmorning/day/evening/night to everyone you encounter for a week. see the difference it makes!
I,ll start u off - Have a really good day, hugs n kisses xoxoxo