I am getting married on nov 24th to my daugthers father. We had her when I was 17 and he was 18 now were in our 20sIm 20 and hes 21. Are we to young? Also could you please tell me what your wedding was like and how old you were when you got married???
2006-10-02 02:11:55 · 32 answers · asked by moodymouse54 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I was 17 when I got married(my husband was 21), and he died 13 years ago. I got married in a church, white dress and reception, but we kept it all simple: the entire neighborhood came. We did not go on a honeymoon, we saved that money to buy our furniture. The wedding can be held simple and inexpensive...my mom did all the cooking and baking, we had a big basement and decorated that for the party, all the neighbors came with presents and we actually had a good time.
I do not think that you are too young...my son got married at age 20. I think it is how mature and responsible you are right now, and since you have a child together do I believe that you are doing the right thing...Good Luck
2006-10-02 02:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'll be 31, he'll be 34 (and we'll have been together for 4-1/2 yrs by the time we marry). I don't think you are too young. It's not about age, it is about maturity. Getting married is serious and it's not like "playing house." There are many responsibilities that come with marriage. If you feel you are ready at age 20, then I say you should go for it!
But some common problems in marriages can be averted if they are addressed early on. Make sure you see eye to eye on spending habits and money in general. If the two of you are polar opposites when it comes to spending and saving money then you will both have one heck of a time. Money is the #1 problem in marriages. Not that you won't have problems anyway (everyone does) but being on the same page to start helps.
Also, be sure you have discussed your future goals together. Do you own a home? Do you want to own a home? Do you want more children? Do have/want a career? All of those things should be discussed.
If you are sure you love this man and you are both mature enough for marriage, then age should not matter at all!
2006-10-02 03:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not 2 young to get married. If u think it is right then do it. I got married at the age of 18 and my husband was 20. I am now 19.
2006-10-02 09:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by carissa t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be very honest with you...I was engaged when I was 16 years old to my high school sweetheart. We broke up when I was 18. I went to college and then after college I had the wonderful opportunity to travel all around the world. I had so much fun in my 20's I could never ever think that I could be committed to anyone because I was so happy and free. Howevever, once I turned 30 I was looking for a husband. I found my knight in shining armour and we married when I was 33. I suggest you wait because life changes as you get older. Things that you use to like you no longer like...you my dear will change as the years go on.
2006-10-02 09:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, yes. There is so much in life to learn in your 20's, and being married doesn't allow you that 'freedom'. It's good that you're getting married since you have a child, but hopefully that's not the reason you are. If it is, in the long run, the child will be hurt more going through a divorce.
I just got married 4 months ago...the wedding was awesome....just close friends and relatives....didn't cost a ton of money....I'm 33 and my husband is 35...first marriage for both of us.
Regardless of what others think, it's your life and it doesn't really matter what we think. I wish you all the luck in the world with your marriage!
2006-10-02 05:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i became 18 the first time I were given married and that i became divorced by skill of the time i became 23. I were given married again at 24 and that i have been fortuitously married to my husband for 10 years. i imagine some human beings are waiting at youthful a at the same time as, ( no longer 18! Now that i'm 34, I understand 18 is a lot too youthful! ) yet i imagine maximum human beings are not waiting till they have lived a touch and characteristic matured. I truly sense a lot less stress in my marriage now then I did after I married my first husband at 18.
2016-11-25 22:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little young. But everyone matures differently. If you think the two of you are ready then go for it. I don't think you can go by what anyone else says. I was married when I was 24ish and it didn't end well. That was along time ago, and I have to say, I got really lucky meeting my future husband. We will be married next June. I think the thing is we have to remember to be honest with who we are, what we feel, and remember it's okay to grow as a person. Good luck. I know that wasn't a yes or no answer. I don't really think it could be answered that way. Trust your heart. :)
2006-10-02 15:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by meegee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the right age for marriage? I think it's impossible to answer that question. I think it has a lot to do with maturity and the mutual agreement that both choose to enter into a permanently monogamous situation. I think marriage is wonderful but only you can answer your question. Do you think you're ready? too young? learned enough? These are all questions only you can answer. I have a feeling that you know the answers but are looking for some type of validation. Piece of advice. I've been with my husband since I was 13 and for the past eight years we've heard everyone say that we are "too young". Well, we've been together longer than some older couples and we just block out all the negative. You should do the same. Good luck!
2006-10-02 05:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs_Rivera2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are a little on the young side, if you two have been happy together all this time, then I think you have a good chance of a happy marriage. 3 years is long enough to know how you feel, and since he's been there for you through the baby, you already know what kind of family you will be having. I think that it's wonderful that you two have held up against the strain of having a baby so young, which tears so many couples apart. Kudos on your strength and courage, and many happy wishes in the future!
2006-10-02 05:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just happy you are giving your daughter a family. The age doesn't matter because of the circumstances in your case. I was married at 28 and had my first child at 30. I already had more than five years of post-secondary education and a start at a career. That is the only thing you will be missing out on by getting married young - the chance to be out in the world on your own, getting further education and experience in the working world.
2006-10-02 05:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋