thank you for the advice i will try some of the suggestions
2006-10-02 02:01:45 · 7 answers · asked by chrissy w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
good luck to you both
2006-10-02 02:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by Raine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 18:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by niang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Chrissy-I just read over all the other answers to your original questions - I feel for you, I really do. A couple of years ago I was in a similar situation with a guy. We were not engaged, but I'd travelled half way round the world to be with him at his request, even though we'd had quitw of few of the "it's not going to work" conversations. Basically, it took four long years of learning things the hard way for me to turn around and finally say "You're right - it isn't going to work" and leave! Now I'm not saying that you should leave the guy, things may not be that bad in your eyes, and there was a lot more to my situation as well, but the one main thing that I will say is that when your partner instigates a fight with the phrase "it's not working", and flings the engagement ring back at you - then two things are blatantly obvious - the main one being that he doesn't give a flying crap about your feelings and how what he is saying is hurting you, and two, he is completely insecure because he jumps straight back into bed with you after each arguement proving that basically he just wants you to prove how much you love him and reassure him that everything is going to be okay and he is still this hot property stud that is desireable and you find attractive!
I agree with most people that you need to talk to him about it, and it was one girl who said you need to discuss this with him when you are NOT fighting! I suggest that you guys go out for a walk or to the beach or do something nice and romatic together, and when you feel comfortable enough, just bring up the subject - you could ask him if he's having a good time and enjoying his time with you, and get it going from there - explain to him that you find the constant fighting and ring-throwing and make-up sex to be emotionally draining, and that you love him and that you feel that the relationship will work, otherwise you would not have given him the engagement ring, but if he is so sure that it is not going to work, and his reasons are legitimate, then perhaps he is trying to create a self-fulfilling prophecy! If someone has it in their head all the time that they can't do something, they just can't do it - bets are that they won't allow themselves to even try it! So if he keeps telling you that it won't work - there are only several outcomes that are possible -
1)he doesn't want it to work,
2)he won't let it work,
3) he has legitimate reasons and feelings of guilt over something he has done wrong which will not allow him to let it work,
4)the two of you try to force it to work and you both end up miserable!!!
Seriously, the guy I was with that I was telling you about - we went round and round for almost 5 years with our crap, by the end of things we hated the sight of each other, things were getting really nasty and we have never spoken to each other since! Within a year of me leaving him, he got married to someone else! I am now happily engaged to the love of my life, and for the first time in my life, the relationship is easy and comfortable and loving and secure, and I don't have any of those stupid fights where one of us immediately says "it's off, it's not going to work"! We're by no means perfect - we have our stupid fights too, but we never once say that it's not going to work, we just work through our differences of opinion and come to a mutual agreement, or just agree to disagree!
Basically, as most people have been saying - if he keeps acting like a baby and throwing his dummy out of the pram now just to keep you on your toes, he will not stop once you are married. If you keep letting him away with it, then he will keep doing it to you!
So next time he has a hissy and says that It's not going to work - you should just say to him"You know you've said that so often, that I have come to realize that you are right - this won't work. You are obviously unhappy, and the way that you are behaving and treating me is making me unhappy, and I feel that both of us deserve better than to be stuck with each other making each other miserable, so maybe we should take a break for a few weeks to sort ourselves out" then take a time out - don't get me wrong, it will be the hardest thing you'll ever have to do, for you more so than him - but it may just help to put this matter to rest once and for all!
Stand up for yourself girl - demand the best and forget the rest! People will only treat you as badly as you let them - so have some self respect and a sense of self worth - and insist that they treat you with the respect and courtesy that you deserve - only when you realize that it's not him that is the cause of this situation, it is you because you let him away with it will you ever begin to turn things around!
I really hope that this immature fool see's sense and that you help him to see sense and that things work out for you - I'm speaking from experience, and I know how devastating emotionally and physically draining it can be tip toe-ing your way through an egg-shell type relationship - in a sense he is right - if he's got you this worried and upset - it will never work!
2006-10-02 04:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said it wont, but god loves a trier girl. Talk, talk and talk some more if you want results.....good luck pet.....
2006-10-02 02:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good woman. Be strong
2006-10-02 02:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by lou1241 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish you the BEST of luck. xx
2006-10-02 02:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did i miss something ? xxx
2006-10-02 02:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋