i told my gf i dont want kids yet and she flew off her handle wat should i do now
2006-10-02 01:38:28 · 21 answers · asked by i no it all 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
talk 2 her calm her down and ask her if she will wait a few more years its not fair if she gets preg and u both ain't ready for it good luck
2006-10-02 01:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you DO NOT want children and aren't interested in a lifelong arrangement with the girlfriend that "flew off the handle" when you told her that????
Well, I would strongly suggest that you DO NOT have sex. Or stop the relationship, since she could end up pregnant and you will then be STUCK FOR A LIFETIME.
Parenting is a serious lifelong relationship that two people should make a firm decision on prior to impulsively becoming pregnant.
2006-10-02 08:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She reacted that way cause she wants to have a family. She is wanting to have a baby (now or later) and then you said NO I DON'T WANT KIDS..That has hurt her and it is proably making her second guess your all's relationship.
I have known of people leaving one another because one or the other didn't want kids.
Just don't lead her on..If you do not want kids then stay firm on what you said to her and don't change what you said so she will stop being mad at you.
Some people will not pass up on a chance to have a baby in life. Don't be surprized if it dosen't work out between you two over this subject.
You really don't know what love is until you hold a baby that you helped create.
Maybe you 2 should talk it over some more and she if she is willing to be with you and pass up on her chance/right to have kids.......
Good luck
2006-10-02 08:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her if you love her.
Give her at least the ring, and explain to her why you don't want children yet...are you jealous thinking she will pay more attention to the kids? do you just not like children? Do you not want the wonderful responsibility?? Can you not afford them?
There are a lot of different reasons why and why not to have children, and if you don't want them and your gf do, sorry to tell you but things will probably not work out.
There has to be compromise and love and understanding.
If your lives aren't heading towards the same path, I'd get out of it now.
2006-10-02 08:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate to your gf why you dont want kids yet? I dont think she will break up with you for not wanting kids but if she does it wasnt meant to be..
2006-10-02 08:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least your honest. Dont change you mind on somethong you feel strongly about just to stop an argument. Stick to your grounds who knows what will happen in the future.
2006-10-02 08:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a drink, tell her to get a grip, then dump her. Yet, after all, doesn't mean never and she really needs to learn to communicate better.
If you stay with her, take charge of your own protection against pregnancy or you'll be paying, paying, paying, paying
2006-10-02 08:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you think you aren't ready but she is ready for it, but you 2 should think about it because having children will be advance resposibility, you should have good job and good life to start having Children, she will understand if you tell her that, I know you want kids to have but you aren't ready for it, we all not ready for it because we have no experience so you should built that experience on you
2006-10-02 08:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well oviously if u don't want kids and she does then u want different things in life and u need to either come to a conclusion or u need to break up because ur going down different paths in life and she wants something that u can't/won't give her...
2006-10-02 08:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are gonna change your mind there is really no point in continuing the relationship. Move on with people more suited to your needs and hers.
2006-10-02 08:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by kendra B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋