I am 29 Single .I do not have a strong relation that leads to marriage the main Problem is i could not decide to upgrade my relation to uper level.I have been to the relation more than 7 times in my life.I have criterias set for the to be wife of mine .The criterias are defined and simple but detailed no one has ever passed all of the criterias .Smartness, faithfullness,truthfullness,Plan are the biggest once ...................Do i get a person who fulfilles all those? or should i change my criterias ? ..........could not this affect my happeness in marrage?
2006-10-02 00:53:51 · 6 answers · asked by Tony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should marry the woman you want to marry. It's good to have standards but not if they get in the way. It's also important to realize that you shouldn't lower your standards because you're not finding the right woman, you decided you needed these things for a reason and marriage is not a requirement. Keep looking for that smart faithful true girl. She's out there for you.
2006-10-02 01:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first thing you did wrong is to have criteria, or should I say a list of requirements for her to meet. You will never find anyone that fits those 100%, but if you do, you might be in your 90's before that happens. There is nothing wrong to have standards and qualities that are very dear to your heart and are the qualities that are the most important to you. In a relationship, it is not always about you and what you want, but it is give and take. You might find someone that has most of the qualities that you want her to have, but what if you dont have all the qualities that she wants you to have. What if she doesnt want you because you didn't fit all the things on her list, how would you feel? You can NEVER have a list and expect someone to have all of that criteria you want her to have. In relationship it is give and take, so you may to accept that she doesn't have all the things you want her to have and I am sure any reasonable person will realize that you will not have all the qualities that she wants. One thing you should NEVER do is lower your standards or throw away those things that mean the most and what makes you whole as a person. If you remember that we are not perfect, but by accepting people for the differences they have, it will make you a better person and help grow as a person by accepting people for who they are.
2006-10-02 01:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by ~~1GR8GUY~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is probably the most important decision of your life if you believe you are only going to do it once and do it right. If you have needs, standards and expectations that you want fulfilled -- then you probably know what you want out of life and marriage. What's the point in settling for less than what you need to be happy. If you keep looking, you will find someone that meets most of your important points. With any luck she will also have high standards that you will live up to as well. Marriage isn't something that has to rushed or even done at all unless you're ready. For now, just enjoy the dating and bf/gf relationships. When you find the right person you will know it and marriage will just be the natural evolution. Good luck!
2006-10-02 01:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Justin W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married. You aren't ready.
Once you figure out why marriage exists, what function it serves, then you will know if you are ready. At that point, find the most qualified individual, that being the one you love with all your heart, and go for it.
2006-10-02 01:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jeffrey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should look at yourself and think whether a girl fitting to those criterias would want to have anything to do with u? maybe they need something more? i have always been saying: want perfection - be perfection. u want smart girl? be smart. u want truthful? be truthful etc.
2006-10-02 01:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to downgrade for a while
2006-10-02 00:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋