My fiance and I just spent a wonderful weekend in Charleroi in Brussels for my birthday. The hotel was lovely and the local Irish Bar was absolutely great. We had such a great time there that I mentioned to him that I was thinking of having my hen's party there before the wedding - it would be as cheap as a weekend out in Dublin but a hell of a lot more fun! He agreed with me and said that he was thinking of having his stags' party there also, then he suggested a joint hen's/stag's weekend? I think it is a great idea - we love spending time together and all our friends always get on great so it could end up being an absolute riot of a party (in a good sense). But the few people we have mentioned it to so far look at us as if to say we are crazy - what do you think? Good or bad idea and why?
2006-10-02 00:47:01 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There seem to be a lot of you out there who are of the "one last night of freedom - get your rocks off" school of thought! This is not our thinking - we do not see our marriage as some form of punishment that we will be incarcerated in for the rest of our lives - our stag/hen party is just a celebration - not an excuse to have meaningless sex with some random person! Plus it will be a month or two before the wedding, so it's not like it will be the last chance for either of us to go out with our friends alone!
2006-10-04 04:38:22 · update #1
Wonderful idea!!!!! It's about time someone realized that some people think of marriage as a beginning and not an end to fun. If your friends don't see the logic of a combo party, they are just being selfish troublemakers. It's about time that the archaic and destructive stag parties were reconstructed to better fit the times. I agree with the joy of spending all possible time with my other half and think a combo party is a great idea that we'd enjoy. More power to you, and wishes for a happy and long future together.
2006-10-02 00:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Justin W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. That's just a party not a hens party! You are defeating the whole purpose of the tradition. It's a last hooray without your man. Celebrate it how you want but it's certainly not a hens party if you husband to be is there. Hens night must be celebrated with your gal pals because it's a celebration of the last time you are a single woman. That's the reason its named so.
If you're not into that, then cool but you can't call it a hens night. There is no such thing as a joint hens/stag night. The meaning of the term is against the end product.
2006-10-02 00:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad Idea, The stag and hen parties are supposed to be about your last days of freedom, To spend time just with your mates and devote your time to them. sure you'll meet up have girly\boys nights but this is last occasion as a free agent. If you have any worries or concerns you can discuss them freely, when you are married these chances tend to be few and far between so make the most of them now. If you really love Dublin why not have a year aniversary party there instead?
2006-10-02 00:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by pete m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of having hen and stag parties is so that you can enjoy your last weekend of freedom as a single person. By all means go away with your partner and both sets of friends but it shouldn't be classed as a hen or stag weekend.
Whatever you decide - have a great time
2006-10-02 00:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by feebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah why not, My Sister had her hens in Amsterdam as well as her Fiance, we all met up later that night and had a roar of a party, got stoned and went to a strippers bar, it was great fun!
Brussels is a bit of a way to go though maybe that's whats putting your mates off, though I agree being a Dub, Dublin is a rip off for such things...Another great place for a Joint party is Liverpool, the craic is great their and the puddlin's certainly know how to have fun, not to mention the nightlife is great!
Good luck and Congrats!
2006-10-02 00:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by celtic_colieen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons for hen parties/stag parties is based upon long-standing tradition. It was supposed to be a time when the soon-to-be-wed girl was told all those intimate things about marriage no good girl was supposed to know and a chance to say goodbye to her family and girlfriends. As for the stag party, it was supposed to be a "last fling" for the guy before marriage curtailed his "sowing of wild oats" and limited his heedless carousing with his buddies. Though seldom mentioned, a prostitute was often provided by his male acquaintances in order to teach him how properly to "service" his bride - and they usually watched him learn and shared the hooker's services afterwards. Of course, niether of them (bride-to-be and husband-to-be) was supposed to have the slightest idea what went on at the other's party. That's why you got those wierd looks - quite often, at least on the "stag" side - things have not changed much, at least according to common beliefs. How much of that is still true? Well.....
2006-10-02 00:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The whole idea is for a last fling as a SINGLE person, not a couple. You will have a lifetime of parties together, so go and enjoy this on with your mates and forget all about the wedding to come.
Congratulations by the way, and have a great night and an even better wedding!!
2006-10-02 00:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by London Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By joining the two groups you negate both.
You will have neither a Hen's party, nor a Stag party once the two groups are joined. This negates the traditional purpose of each future spouse having their "last night out" with same sex friends and buddies as a single person.
You will have plenty of time for collective parties. Have this one occasion with each separate groups of friends.
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2016-12-20 00:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god no. You'll be able to party together with all your friends at your reception anyway. Stag and hen nights are usually a chance for your own personal friends symbolically to to mark the new period of your life. Besides, if your fiancee joins you there's the risk that your friends will think once you get married you won't step out of the door without him surgically attached. I'd stick with tradition and make it a separate event (you have the rest of your lives to party together!).
2006-10-02 01:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋