Ladies only advice please?

Question

If you cheated on your bf say a one night stand that you regretted. your bf found evidence (but not proof) of this. If he confronted you and threatened to leave would you own up for the sake of keeping him if you loved him like you said you did

Answer 1

what does mean "own up"? i don't understand, but i know one thing - i would deny everything. not only if he found an evidence, but even if he found a solid proof i would deny. the same i suggest u do - deny, deny, deny. he doesn't want himself to believe that u cheated on him, so he will eat anything u feed him with. good luck. remember - deny.
ps.o, god, just read what those people suggested - to confess. baby, if u confess u will be in **** deep till the day u die or he dumps u. never admit anything which doesn't serve u good. rememebr - he wants to believe in your innocence

Answer 2

Personally , I would think very long and hard about what I would say and how I would say it to the man.
First of all, to have done this would mean that I must be unhappy at some level with the current relationship I was in. Therefore, I would take a good long look at what my expectations were from the relationship and whether I was able to continue with the man knowing that this was now part of my history with him.
Although honesty is the best policy (it gives everyone the opportunity to make decisions based in reality rather than falsehood), I would have to consider whether hurting my current partner was really worth it if I wanted to continue with him.
I would ultimately admit it, but then, I am a person who takes responsibility for what I do and does not believe in deceit over things like this. I would take the lesson from it and never repeat it again anywhere else.
The thing is, if you don't say anything, you live with the guilt of this knowledge. Also, it may eventually come out from other sources, which makes the whole situation even uglier.
If you do say something, it would be difficult to continue with the relationship because trust has been eroded.
When you love someone, you do what is right by them, not just yourself.
I would tell, because at least the man would be able to make up his mind from a standpoint of reality, not the lie that I was telling in order to keep him. For other people, to lie would probably be easier. I can't advise for them.
It's a choice only the individual can make.

Answer 3

I wouldn't tell him b cos he would never forgive u 4 it deep down an eventually will split u up. Learn from the mistake u made an forget it but if u'll still feel guilty then either tell him or leave him. But either way it can possibly ruin things no matter what u do about it an thats something u have 2 accept b cos u made a mistake. I hope that whatever they do it works out the way she hopes cos she sounds like she's truly sorry.

Answer 4

NO!!!!!!!

Whateva u do dont own up. It ruins your relationship.

Fair enough u shouldnt have done it but sometimes you just cant help yourself.

Talking from experience here, if you tell him he will always bring it up in an argument and he will never ever forget bout it, it will eat at him and then u will end up breaking up because he cant stand the thought of it.

If you love him like you say you do then you need to hold on to him for as long as you can.

Honesty is not always the best policy!

Answer 5

Well it will be a whole lot worse if you deny and he finds out it actually happened in the future.
True he'll be mad and with due reason - but you have to explain that it was a very stupid mistake on your behalf and try and convince him that it will never happen again.
You need to think WHY you cheated on him in the first place though - if you love him like you say you do - why would you stray? I hope you work things out though xx

Answer 6

He'll probably never trust you again I'm afraid. And he could use it as an excuse in the future to do the same to you. Own up but be prepared for things to never be the same again. Sorry I paint such a black picture - personal experience. Had the same done to me even though we were pretty liberated and he didn't need to do it on the sly.

Answer 7

Yes.. IT is ur fault in the first place. You must be willing to make up for that in whatever cost possible if you really love him. But after all had been patched up and he would still threaten to leave then I think it wud be better to go separate ways..

Answer 8

tricky tricky

but yeah own up, just sweten up a bit on the topic, and dun make him fell horriable abt it, just say it was a mistake and things like that so u dont hurt his ego also tell him how much u love him, and that it was wrong on ur part to do what u did.

but be careful girl the guy might leave you for this, just em. if he does that there is someone else out there, and hopefully with the next dude u wont do somethin like this

Answer 9

I would say honesty is the best poilcy, but if i was in your situation, knowing my boyfriend like i do, he would NEVER forgive me, so to be honest i'd keep quiet. But to cheat on your boyfriend kinda shows there might by underlying problems that you haven't faced up to, are you unhappy in your relationship? Maybe you nee to think about ending the relationship instead.

Answer 10

Um
This is a trick
If you own up and he stays he will throw this in your face at every opportunity, so think on
Alternatively if you own up and he leaves - you've lost him
Either way
What you really need to do is ask yourself why you strayed in the first place and is it ever likely to happen again