when i asked what was the matter he said he misses his gran who lives a bit away from our home. but when he starts crying its really coming from the heart. I tried to find out if it was something else setting him off and he said no. How will i find out, he wont open up
2006-10-01 23:39:48 · 12 answers · asked by nat c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I always cried when I was away from my "gran" Things seen more secure there for some reason. Let him make contact with "gran" more. (phone, letters, visits either at home or there)
2006-10-01 23:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by MamaJupe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son is 7 and has gone through stages like that. Some ot the time it was as simple as missing his grandmother, my mum used to see him every morning before school until my sister had to return to work and now my mum looks after her boy and my dad looks after mine.. my sisters son is only 1 so its better for my mother to do it..... but anyway I have put her phone number in memory on the phone and her calls her when ever he wants. Just to say hello or tell her about school and some nights even to say goodnight. To see him happy is worth all the money spent on the calls......
But one time it was just due to him not being very comfortable at school with one particular subject. when he was having problems he wasnt telling me the truth and would say things just like that .. that he misses his gran and doesnt want to go ot school .. But you can see habits forming, like it always happens on a particular day. etc....
Just ask him questions but dont try and force an answer. With my son he ends up answering a question I asked today tomorrow... He will just come out and tell me on his own.
I wouldnt worry too much about him 'being abused'.. for some reason if a kid misbehaves or just doesnt act like he should be then people in Yahoo answers just pull out the 'abused card'.
2006-10-02 08:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 8 year old is the same way. I took her to a counselor which seemed to help a bit. she described it as pre-puberty.At that age kids are really self concious and lets face it grade school kids are just plain mean. Maybe letting him write a letter to his gran or give him a journal to write his feelings down.there might be some kids at school giving him a hard time or maybe its the work at school. they put alot of pressure on third graders.If he wont open up to you find someone he will talk to.
2006-10-02 06:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by redsnowykitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like something is happening in YOUR home that is emotionally traumatizing your child. Is there and abuser in your home that you might not suspect? You really need to sit your child down and get to the bottom of his crying issue. Your 8 yr old can vocalize and tell you what is going on. At 8 yrs old this child shouldn't cry uncontrollably unless something is going on in your home that you don't know about!
2006-10-02 06:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I worked as a therapist for children, one way that I got them to open up was through play therapy. Get some small toys such as little people, stuffed animals etc.... and observe him playing. Kids tend to "act out" what's going on with them through play. As he's playing, ask questions such as "Jimmy, why did the teacher yell at the little boy?" or "Why did the bear bite the lion?". Eventually, he'll open up.
2006-10-02 06:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by oliverbenji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a fear of confiding in you perhaps.
Just tell him, ok, if you dont want to tell me why you are so sad, thats ok for the moment. But, I would like to know soon because Im feeling sad now too and want us both to smile.
Sit with him quietly for awhile with your arms around him and pet his hair and talk softly, sweetly with rememberances of little things you remember about him through the years.
Get close to him, bond with him, let his fears drift away. Ask him if he's ready to tell you now. If not, tell him that you will let him rest awhile...tell him where youll be at when he's ready. Do this many times until understands you really do want to listen, you really do want to help him, you really do care. Good luck mommy.
2006-10-02 06:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe things that you do in your every day life reminds him of gran like gives him a flashback.....maybe you can set up some kind of phone call each week with gran or gran can become a pen pal..my mom video tapes herself reading my kids a story at 8 maybe she could video tape her talking to him or recalling a special memory of him with him good luck
2006-10-02 08:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something might have happened at school, maybe some bullies are picking on him, or a teacher is giving him a hard time. you might show up at school and see what is happening at recess and at lunchtime...also a talk with the teacher might help or a school nurse or a counselor to help find out what is wrong...
2006-10-02 06:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to his gran he will probably open up to her or take him to a therapist maybe somebody is messing with your child.
2006-10-02 06:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by PROPHET 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get him to the counsellor and try to find out whats wrong with him
2006-10-02 06:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by chowdary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋