i need to get some information , regarding my ex- partners change of heart to allowing me over night access, although we both went to see the cafcass officer and her agreeing that i can have the kids over night and holidays ect. does she now have the right to get in contact again with the cafcass officer and request my access to be denied. Access has not been decided yet by the courts, as i need to have the kids and see how things go and to be re-elvaluted in dew course. My solictor has told me that i will have no problem of having access to the kids soon. But she is making my life difficult and contacting her solictor, to contact mine about all sorts of nonsence like harrasemnet ect. So can she go to cafcass and say no she does not wont me to have parenal responsibilities ect. We were never married i am not down on the birth certificate., although this is why i am taking her to court. please advice.
2006-10-01 23:32:00 · 7 answers · asked by K G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you have house contents insurance this will usually have legal expenses cover and thus a FREE telephone advice line, the legal expenses wont cover for legal action but you will get free and impartial advice from a qualified lawyer!
2006-10-01 23:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Nick B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The citizens advice bureau is an independent body, and their advice is free. They have branches in almost every locality. Unfortunately, they rarely advice over email or internet. You need to make an appointment and visit their local branch. I have also included another link for your convenience, I am not sure about their credibility, I just found them over the net while doing a bit of a research for your question. In addition youy might find free advice and assitance in the fathers-4-justice site.
Personally, I don't think you should have any problem having contact with your kids as long as:
a) There's no charge of domestic violence against you, and
b) You keep sending gifts, cards, photos and letter to your kids regularly via your solicitor.
Wish you all the best with your kids.
2006-10-01 23:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by netwalker01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have recently been to court to get over night staying contact for my daughter, this went suprisingly well on my behalf and i got overnight contact every fortnight from sat morning to sun afternoon, i was also granted parental responsibility.
though i was also never married in dont make one ounce of difference, courts are interested in the well being of the child and not whether you were married or living together. your ex can however make all kinds of allegations against you but these are unfounded unless proved otherwise, unless you get an order made by the courts she can tell you that you can have contact and then deny you access anytime she feels like it.
my advice: get to a solicitor as soon as possible because before courts you have to go down the road of being invited to see a mediator and if that dont work then you will ahve no option but to take her to court.
unfortunatly as your name is not on the birth's certificate you have no rights at all, unless you signed the birth registration book and that was only brought in to effect from 1 dec 2004.
try this site for advice: http://www.childrenslegalcentre.com/Homepage.asp?NodeID=89614
what ever happens i wish you well becase it's not a nice thing to go through
2006-10-01 23:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by david w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about this... some women can be so spiteful!
This exact thing happened to my husband with his Ex, except his name was on the Birth Certificate.
I'd advise that you talk to the Citizens Advice Bureau, they are all trained and qualified to help in this exact situation.
As for the harrassment and other lies she's making up, this will have to be proved in court.
Get a list of all your phone records and keep a diary of when and where she contacts you and what she says.
Good Luck, I hope this gets sorted out soon, my heart goes out to you! xxx
2006-10-02 08:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kirk_84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor bugger I don't know were you are from but in Australia you can speak to legal aid free of charge. I hope that this person realised that children are not a means of getting what you want and by doing this she is only hearting them in the long run. Keep you spirits up mate Carma is not a nice thing they will not be children forever. I wish you all the very best.
2006-10-02 00:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have any advise for you but i kind of know how u feel and cant belive a woman can do that to het own child. every child must get to know his or her mother and FATHER. my boyfriends ex is doing the same to him. she doesnt allow him to see his son. go to court and fight for your child!
2006-10-01 23:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get in touch with citizens advice bureau. they are fully trained and free. http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/index/getadvice.htm
2006-10-01 23:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋