I'm in the closet becoz where i'm from its illegal to be gay & lets just say i was not happy about losing my friends, family, job and everything that i have &cherish. Recently i moved to melbourne where its ok to be lesbian(Thank God!). I find that a lot of women seem to be attracted to me, i can tell when i look at them, but i just dont know how to be around them. I've been around straight people all my life (30 yrs), i dont dress or sound gay, yet most gay women can tell when i look at them. Recently i saw this girl at a cafe that i go to sometimes, & have been smitten ever since. I want to talk to her but i get so nervous around her i end up just staring at her when i think she is not looking.She is obviously gay & has noticed me looking at her,she has tried talking to me but i just clam up.She knows where i'm from& may be thinking that i'm just disgusted with her! I need to find out if she is interested in me as i dont want to get out of the closet for nothing,i fear she may out me
2006-10-01 23:08:50 · 10 answers · asked by shyandhatingit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simple, imagine that she is a friend that you are talking to. That way you won't have to be on the guard on what you saying. If you feel that she is a friend then act like she is one. You won't make a total fool of yourself. Be honest with her and tell her how you feel about her. I will bet a million dollars that she has the same feelings for you. So give it a try... What do you have to lose?
2006-10-01 23:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There can be no doubt because you'd know it instantly.....like into a heterosexual situation..........both the guy and girl just know instinctively............just like you do..........follow your instincts......just notice the food she has or the clothes she wears or the interests she demonstrates and that should give you an opener............
2006-10-02 00:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...for starters, take a deep breath,...and relax, ok?,...now that you've calmed down, explore your feelings,...are you attracted to her?,...if you are?, then say something to her the next time she wants to chat,...you may find out that she's just out-going and friendly,...or, maybe she is attracted to you,...but, you'll never know unless you two talk...
2006-10-01 23:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by tiny dancer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time for you to be more mean than usual.
2016-03-27 01:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the impression that you are interested too, then wait and she will definitely come on to you.
2006-10-01 23:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Achilles 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men give advice to lesbians?
What do we know?
2006-10-01 23:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by hunter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aye that, Dublin.
2006-10-01 23:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you get the vibe, ask her.
2006-10-01 23:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out straight
2006-10-01 23:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just grab her snatch
2006-10-01 23:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by michael w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋