does any parent or teacher teach?

Question

teenagers the value of waiting until they are married until they have intimate relationships

Answer 1

The best way has always been to "teach by example" and lets face it, the youth of today have had some poor role models in the last 10 years. Do not forget the constant images flashing at teenagers from the T.V. screen giving them a warped view of life...

Answer 2

My mom said it was ideal but only myself can guide the direction I want to go by my choices as I become a young adult. It would have been hypercritical advice as she didn’t wait before her 1st marriage, nor the second. I don’t like those who can’t practice what they preach.

I had sex before I am to get married in a year and half.

I regret the person and the time (as I think 18 was too young now, even though I was with him for 3.5 years).

I do not regret having sex before marriage and I love my fiance very much. Who is my best friend and childhood sweet-heart.

My virginity was valued greatly and I was known, but proud to be known as the prude girl who would not dare go the sexual route with guys I dated or known. Unlike everyone else I hanged with.

A girl and boy can value their virginity and body but be in sexual relations.

If I was going in the health field of high school health teaching, I would not use that as a foundation for abstained. I disagree with Bush's "Abstained" sex education teaching as 3/4 in my classroom slept through those speeches. Plus, who is to say one person's religion is the same as everyone else. That violates our right to religious beliefs.

My children will know why the concept is being taught and grown in a Christian home. However, I will not shame my children if they decide to have sex prior to marriage.

Not everyone wants to get married nor want to get married young. I have a friend almost into her 30's and still feel she is young to get married. Just a matter of self preference.

Answer 3

When I was a kid it was expected that you would wait. Very few kids didn't wait. I only knew one girl who got pregnant in high school--all four years, and she got married. Now it is expected that people will NOT wait until marriage and illegitimacy is rampant.
I think part of it is the parents fault. There are certain segments of society that bought into lies such as the "Playboy Philosophy" which basically said that all the standards that society have lived by for thousands of years is a bunch of bunk and superstition and if you want to have sex with a hundred different people what does it matter to anyone but you. Well, we can see what that philosophy has won us--millions of fatherless children, millions of abortions, millions of people who can't commit to anything except what's happening at the moment.
TV and the movies have become increasingly crass and vulgar. How many people do you see in movies who wait until they are married to have sex? Not any at all! They make it look perfectly acceptable to play house with someone. It's not an aberration any more, it's the "normal" way to have a relationship.
I talked to one girl on this site who was using sex to get attention at 13. I wrote to tell her that she was ruining her life and she was too young to have sex because she was still a little girl. She wrote me back to tell me that she was a woman because she'd had two periods. Think about how many other little girls think the same way.
Parents don't parent. If they have money they are so self-absorbed and involved with their careers that they don't have time for the kids. If they don't have money then they either do drugs are work five jobs to support the kids. Again the kids raise themselves.
Parents let their 13 and 14 year olds date. What sane parent would let a 13 year old child go out unchaperoned on a date? Do I need to tell you how many 13 year old pregnant girls there have been on this site alone?
What moron thought of this idea of coed slumber parties? How could this POSSIBLY be a good idea? What about all the parents in upscale areas that think that putting on plays like "The Vagina Monologues" in the kids high school is a good idea? How about parents that sponsor and chaperone parties in which they serve BEER to the high school kids in attendance? "Adults" have no standards and they pass this concept on to their kids.
The truth is that kids want standards. They want to know the difference between right and wrong. They want to learn self-control but they are being told by their schools and parents that they are amoral little animals who CANNOT control their own behavior, especially their sexual behavior. This is, of course, crap. Kids today don't have hormones that are any different than they were at my age.
Kids haven't changed but the enviornment that they are expected to exist in has. Kids can still be taught to wait but it takes a parent who actually cares and who believes that it's important to tell their kids that they expect them to live a moral life. It takes a parent who has the guts to tell their kid "no" when the child wants to walk out of the house wearing a T-shirt that advertises that she is willing to perform sexual acts. Or tell their 15 year old that she can't date someone who's 22. Or tell their son that it's NOT OK to "sow their wild oats". Basically it takes a parent who is more interested in being a parent to their little kids than they are in being their kid's "best friends"!

Answer 4

I think they pretty much all do. But, most are wise enough to realize teenagers are humans with minds and free will of their own. So, unless you plan to be with them 24/7, you best also talk about what happens if you don't wait...unless you want lots of grandkids or a child riddled with STDs.

Answer 5

ABSOLUTELY my husband and I do. All of my children have heard our feelings almost from birth and will continue to hear it. I am very open with my kids because I want them to come to me with their thoughts and question and not their friends. I am right with them and very involved in their lives and with their schooling. They have come to me with some pretty racey things (not about themselves) so I know we have a close bond. I will be teaching them as long as I am alive if they need me. Until they move out, they are stuck with my morals and values.

Answer 6

Many parents try... but when you are a teenager, your parents and teachers don't know anything anyways, they don't realize till much later they may have been right... plus many people have different opinions, and while you don't agree that is okay too... I am gonna TRY to teach my kids... (they are boys... I am in trouble!!)

Answer 7

It's been a theme of my 'sex ed' talks with my sons since they were too young to even understand what I truly meant. They've heard it so many times, woven into so many appropriate conversations, over the years, I'm sure they could give the talk themselves now.

Answer 8

they teach but they dont listern,,,