At the age of 21, I meet my son father. We had a wow of a relationship. We lived on the street to keep together. I thought we would move up and grow together. He left after I told him I was carry his child. Then I let other men in my life. I was raped a few times. A guy I thought loved me almost sent me to Jail and married someone else. So how do you move on and open your self up again for love and maybe get hurt again. maybe my question should be is there any decent guys out there that are not abusers and know how to share and give love.
2006-10-01 22:52:44 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i feel really sorry for u. but dont lose hope. hope is the only thing which keeps the world going and i am sure u will find someone.
2006-10-01 22:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are times in life when anyone can be naive, trusting, even stupid. There are also times in life when those we fall for turn out to be totally different than we hoped/believed. Then comes the time when we look at ourself and say "enough, I am too strong, intelligent and deserving of love to continue with a destructive path and poor life choices!" There are a lot of decent guys out there and you will find one, maybe several before you decide where to settle. What you need to do is remember the "wow" isn't what matters or lasts - it's the hand holding, heart warming, caring where you sleep at night guy you need to find and fall in love with. True love is when you put that Other first and they return that care!
2006-10-02 06:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Justin W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love and be loved. Life is for living, it's easy to forget but one day your going to wake up an old lady. How do you see yourself? Alone? Filled with regrets? Take small steps in trusting and allowing a man into your life...you may feel pain, you may feel scared...but at least you are feeling something and that means your alive. Forget the past and look to the future. There is so much more to come...so many moments of happiness for you to experience.
2006-10-02 06:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huni, there are plenty of decent guys out there. Maybe play hard to get for a bit, dont rush into anything. Let yourself be wooed and treated like the lady you are. When you have lots of love to give there is always some1 who will gladly soak it up, but dont give it too easily. Be proud of you and your son and live life how you want it and then your love will come, probably when you least expect it. x
2006-10-02 08:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go there for now unless you really want to. leave the boys or men, whatever, alone for now. time will heal you and make you learn how to trust again. when you meet someone that is good for you, you will instictivly know, just learn to love and cherish your self, then when you do meet someone again, you wont let them take you for a fool beacause you have confidence and in return, they will know not to mess you about as you av got love and respect for yourself and if they really liked you, they would be scared to hurt you. it depends how badly you want somone in your life, whether or not you trust again. you might not think its worth it, but your only young, try and build up some confidence and do things with you and your son. and as for you being raped, it must of have an impact on your look on life and mentally, not saying youare mental, but it must of made you realy depressed and has made you lose confidence in yourself. you have to remember that it was not yourfault why that happend to you and there are some very sick people out there, dont let them ruin the rest of yourlife, you have to try and move on. for you and YOUR SONS SAKE. forget men for the moment is my opinion, try and build a healthy relationship with you and your son. if you have anyother family, go and see them, if you have close friends, go and see them.
goodluck. xx **)
2006-10-02 06:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! I'm sorry to hear that really!.....can't blame you to feel sorry and bitter.....but here is one thing i wanna share with you....God is never deaf nor numb...He has seen all your pains.....He had allowed them to happen for reasons...it could not be as what you had thought about but God has His own way....sometimes people learn the hard way....when we suffer God just don't stare....sometimes he had allowed it in order for us to learn....so what i say is never loose hope! I guess the time has come that you are able now to handle a good relationship in the future with your experience....someone, somwhere out there, is waiting for a person like you....just be patient God will lead your ways towards each other in HIs perfect time....don't rush love anymore. He is a perfect match-maker....just be patient ok.....again cheer up! There's always dawn after darkness! Never loose hope.never give up..My prayers are for you!
2006-10-02 06:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by maic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of wonderful guys out there who will treat women very decently. What you need to do is get your life on track for your sake and your baby's. Then get involved with a man. Until then you will still be hurt and mistreated. The greatest gift you can give yourself is self-sufficiency. It is your ticket to freedom
2006-10-02 05:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds Great, Just Dont Be So Easy Going If Ya Know What I Mean
2006-10-02 06:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Romeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your young but have lived such a hard life so far. To answer your question, yes there are great guys out there but first for yourself and son's sake I would genuinely seek a support group to overcome your issues. good luck
2006-10-02 06:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those hopes and dreams, that life your chasing ,the one that lives and drives your everything, is what keeps youtogeather knowing someday someone will adore you entirely and you will feel loved like never before and all you could ever of imagined it to be,wouldnt compare to how it actually feels to live it...thats sorta what keeps me going...ive lived to know love many times and opened to easily as im eager to share my life with someone but as its been its only me being for.... not them..falling in love with someone hurts when they dont fall to....but you dont deserve to be treated like you have and if you want to chat plz do so
2006-10-02 06:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you make a sound decision to not be abused you choose wisely in the future and make better choices about all the things you do and someone nice will be there some day.
Hope you recognize him.
2006-10-02 06:01:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋