its hard for me too...i work and he just stay home...what is the best think to do?
2006-10-01 22:12:38 · 10 answers · asked by capricorn girl 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am going to speak from the other end of this. I am the one who is bi-polar. I am not sure if your husband is seeing a doctor but he needs to right away. He needs to be put on medication to stabilize his moods. I know it's hard to deal with but can I say this...IF YOU THINK IT'S HARD FOR YOU, IMAGINE HOW IT IS FOR HIM. It is miserable to be bi-polar. We hate being in our own skin. We don't live to make our spouses lives miserable. It's a struggle just to breath for some of us. PLEASE for all of your sake get him on medication to level him out. If one medication doesn't work then try another. There are so many out there. If he gets stable, he will be a different man...honestly. Good luck to you all.
2006-10-01 23:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by kenntonip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first question would be - is he seeking treatment for his bi-polar condition. It is a very serious, but very treatable condition. Both medication and therapy are needed to get him started in the right direction. If he has not been diagnosed and is being treated - then things will not get better. Once the treatment begins and the proper treatment is started - things can improve and he may feel up to getting out and facing the world. As for your relationship - that is another thing that counseling can help with. Ask his counselor or therapist if you can both see him/her. There are also support groups and other help available to help you in dealing with his disorder. I suggest you look around your community or search online for help. Or ask your family doctor to point you in the right direction if he isn't seeking treatment. Hope that helps - trust me - if your husband is on the right treatment plan - things will get better.
2006-10-02 05:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shadowtwinchaos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has a psychiatrist and therapist, I'd ask them for advice. I'd also give your local NAMI branch a call; they will have both information and places you can go and get support and a place to relieve the pressure among people in similar situations.
If your husband isn't seeing a psychiatrist and therapist, he definitely needs to. Bipolar disorder is like congenital heart disease or rheumatoid arthritis: it isn't a matter of willpower, but a biological problem best treated with medicines, just like all other biologically-based diseases. Like those two diseases, it also gets worse with time if left untreated.
Below is the link to NAMI.
2006-10-02 05:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by grey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always look on the internet on a mental illness site and it might have some information on how to treat someone with Bi-Polar.
2006-10-02 06:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by Black Rainbow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've left a marriage where the partner had a similar illness.
There is no cure and either the side effects from the meds make life hell or the illness progresses. It DOES NOT get better and there is no cure. Sorry to be harsh, but if you have kids, then get them out of the relationship earlier rather than later.
2006-10-02 05:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by rumplestiltskin12357 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him help, meds and off the couch. Lots of people with Bi-polar disorder are high funtioning people when they stay on their meds. Don't let him use his illness to just be lazy.
2006-10-02 05:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am bipolar type II, but working and staying on a job is darned near impossible for some bipolars. They either get angry and/or paranoid and quit, or just lose interest. Don't think anyone in full-blown mania could work, but lots of us in hypomania are real productive. I guess if you love him , my advice is to keep loving him, and know that if he hurts your feelings sometimes, it's disease, not really him. If it is too scary or he hurts you physically, get out! He MUST take his meds.!
2006-10-02 08:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by krautlover2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with kenntonip. I, too, am bipolar, and medication and therapy are crucial. Don't stop loving him and encourage him to get out of the house and get active, even if it's just going for walk. Many bipolar people are very creative and intelligent and need a positive outlet for their energy, whether it be photography, writing, or some other activity.
2006-10-02 07:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Scrapaholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to get out and do things. Go for walks, do the errands, clean the yard. He may not have any ambition to do anything, he may feel that nothing excites him.
Regardless, he needs to start doing things. It's ok to fake that he's enjoying himself. Hopefully after some time his brain will recognise that he does enjoy those things and he can get part of his life back.
2006-10-02 05:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Corvette Red Racer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh -- staying home probably isn't good to him -- would just add to feelings of worthlessness. find something he likes to occupy him -- a friend of mine has a bi-polar brother that delivers pizza and sells thrift store finds on ebay.
2006-10-02 05:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋