I've been with my bf for a year & 2 months. Oh my god, he used to treat me like a princess. I mean it. When I first got with him we took things very slow. We had a great friendship before hand & we started seeing eachother then after him hinting to me &showing me that he was a great guy we started dating. Every month on the day he asked me out, he'd bring me roses & simple notes to tell me he cared & little holidays with small handmade gifts. I'd never had anyone who acctually showed me they cared so much. Most guys I'd been with weren't very caring. My dad got sick with cancer and I lost my best friend, crap with work happened & he started visiting with his friends more. It was fine bc we had been with eachother 24/7 for so long we needed space. Then the space grew bigger& for a while now he's been so distant &we had a few fights about this & a few other things & it seemed to be getting better. But now it isn't again. This is his first real relationship bc the past were no more than
2006-10-01 22:09:06 · 12 answers · asked by Peepers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a month at most. I've tried to be so linient (sp) on a few things concidering this is his first real one. But I'm getting so tired of some of the little bs things that happen. I tell him constantly things I don't like or wish were different but all he see's is me complaining about him all the time. So I try and make a talk a bit calmer and more open for him to talk. But he DOESNT. And in fights he gets mad at me bc I do things he doesn't like but yet he wont tell me. I'm not a mind reader.
He was supposed to talk to me about when we could "talk" later about us and he went off to a concert last night and blew me off. Pissed as I still am I still love him.
Obviously you people know I care a great deal for this guy and he cares for me as well. But how in the world do you wake someone up?
2006-10-01 22:13:29 · update #1
****I forgot to put in my note. I broke up with him last Tues and in hopes he'd "wake up" and well I don't know if he has or not but we were still talking over the phone and communicating since then. He needed a few days to "think" and I gave him a few but I got tired of waiting bc these are all issues we've had more than once so he should have been thinking about this. We talked Sat night at my hosue for a few mins but ended bc he was really tired. And then that's when the other "talking" was supposed to happen.****
2006-10-01 22:26:41 · update #2
well the main problem here is lack of communication. the key to every healthy relationship is a good, long session of just opening your heart and soul to each other. perhaps you both can compromise. allocate some time for personal space, but it's most important that you spend more time with each other. try to talk to him about it. good luck!
2006-10-01 22:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.... sounds like you have a bf who seems to be getting bored with the relationship. it usually happens when you are together 24/7 or most of the time. which is why a little bit of distance is sometimes a welcome solution.
what is happening in your relationship is that is is starting to become monotonous. you just haven't conciously noticed it. but it's there. that is why he has been wanting to see you less.
try to do something new & different with him. something exciting, maybe wild, can be adventurous. just do something that will awaken again the fire you had before.
i hope i'm wrong on this last part....... it may also mean that he is finding that excitement from someone or something else.
2006-10-02 06:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to do this but you got to let go of him and try to forget and ignore him, because when you stop talking to him you start to ignore him or something, he will think in his mind that: men I should have start caring more about that girl, we would have been really have a great relationship with each other, then he will come back to you again and he will ask you to date him and he will care more than the last one...
2006-10-02 05:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last line said it all - "This is his first real relationship . ..." He was probably just getting his feet wet (only 14 months) and unsure of himself. Guys rarely develop as quickly as gals. So say ENOUGH now, and move on with your own life - go out with friends, "do" lunch, watch TV (very educational) and/.or take a course at the local college! Meet up with your friends at least once a week. ANYTHING AT ALL TO GET YOUR MIND OF THIS GUY!
2006-10-02 05:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not mind readers and no one appreciates mind games and that's what it sounds like you were doing. You broke up so he would get how serious your issues were? I will take a stab at this and say that's not very mature way to communicate and resolve your issues. Sounds like your insecure, which many of us are but you can't change him nor can you control him. Emotional high maintenance comes to mind
2006-10-02 05:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. if i were you, better dump him.. just look around you! There are many guys out there dying just to have you.. You sometimes don't notice it, but maybe a friend or two loves you secretly, only that you are too blind for that person you are pining for to realize it.
Well, I also have that experience. I almost killed myself over some loser who doesn't want to do anything with me. Then I realized my worth, and saw that there are some guys who would do EVERYTHING just to have your love. They would woo you, shower you with gifts, etc...
There are more men who deserves someone like you. And don't pine for someone who wouldn't bother with you.
See, you deserve to be cherished and loved. And someone who will always be there when you need him, whether you guys are apart or not.
Choose wisely, princess. Always remember that there are more good guys that will love you and protect you.
Be safe! (",)
2006-10-02 05:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Emz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a nagging individual. Let him go, I doubt anyone else will want anything to do with you. I am sure it will be a relief for him as he seems like a nice guy decent in fact everything you are not. What a Hag!
2006-10-02 05:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the way of love. When you want it, goes away too fast. When you hate it, always seems to last.
2006-10-02 05:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u treating to break up wit him he mite get sense nd try nd stop u but if he doesn't then its finished he obviously is an asshole nd your better off without him!!
2006-10-02 05:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
an old saying comes to mind.... If you love something set it free.. if it comes back its yours if it doesnt it never was.
know what i mean?
2006-10-02 05:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by sunninsandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋