Parents in the UK today seem to blame the government for everything from bad behaviour to weight problems. I am a strong believer that when you have a child it is your responsibility to pay for that child's upbringing and if you can't afford it, you shouldn't have a child. Parents in the UK seem to blame the generation of ASBO children on schools and councils not doing enough. Why can't the parents discipline these children themselves? What are your views?
2006-10-01 22:05:01 · 4 answers · asked by claire 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I share the view that 'when you have a child it is your responsibility to pay for that child's upbringing and if you can't afford it, you shouldn't have a child', however, this government have given themselves the 'nanny' role and only have themselves to blame when we turn around and blame them - I mean for goodness sake, Tony Blair thinks it's a good idea to stop children from growing up to be 'yobs' by forcing pregnant women from 'dysfunctional' lifestyles to have their unborn babies modified so that they will not grow up to be a menace to society. When he has the audacity to think he has the right to be this invading of people's home lives - of course people are going to blame the government for everything that goes wrong in the home. I personally feel that very few parents have ever been able to truly discipline their children into truly content happy adults - parenting has never come with a 'how to' guide and worse still, we are being handed more and more 'how not to' guides. How exactly does one raise a child without using the old fashioned method of fear to not be a disturbance to society? I would like to think that most people knew the answer to this - but furthermore to the point - even when they do know this - at the end of the day, once your child enters primary school, your influence on them will most likely deterioate at least until their teens, and then and there is make or break point. Depending on whom and what your child comes into contact with, will be the deciding factor on how they will affect and or contribute to society unless something very dramatically life changing happens to them after. When a parent has done all they can to educate their children on the dangers of drugs, sex and alcohol etc...it is then the a government responsibility as it is their job to shape society. If there is poor education on all these matters then that is the governments' fault.
2006-10-02 00:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by muce 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand getting into financial difficulties when you already have children, and then having to ask the state for help - I have absolutely no problem with that. But already depending on state assistance, and then having more kids is irresponsible, I feel. I haven't had more children (although I'd love a big family) because I know I wouldn't be able to afford to look after them properly, and I don't see why I should then pay for other people to expand their families.
One of the difficulties is that it seems that schools no longer welcome parental involvement, which exacerbates the problem you have outlined.
2006-10-02 05:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by gellhorn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's this way all around the world.
2006-10-02 05:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
god you have no idea do you,l also bet you have no children
2006-10-02 07:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋