do you teach your child to be a leader and not a follower? and how much time do you really spend with?

Question

your child? most let either the tv, video games or even the teachers babysit and raise our children. so how much time do you spend with your family. understand most have demanding jobs or what not and are single family homes

i remember there used to be this commercial that came on every night at eight and it said "do you know where your children are"

Answer 1

i teach my daughter to be a leader, not enough at all. it pains me that i cant spend more and when i do have the time i am too tired

Answer 2

I remember that commercial, I really liked that one! I have two biological children that are now adults and I have two children that I have been raising for 4 years now, one is a teen and the other is almost a teen.

I have instilled in my children (all of them) that they need to use there own mind and not be swayed by what someone else thinks you should do, and to always listen to that little voice in your head.

I spend as much time as I can with all my kids, with my adult children, I worked the same time that they went to school, so we were getting ready to leave at the same time and we would watch the news and pick a subject to talk about and what they thought and why. I always liked when they had a different opinion then I did because that told me that they were using there own mind. They are wonderful adults, mostly making wise decisions.

With the 2 children that I am raising now, we talk in the evenings, and I am trying to get them to understand the importance of thinking on there own. It is harder with them because of the things that they have gone through in there life. But I will keep on trying and I'm determined that they will grow up knowing how to be a leader also.

Answer 3

Nice question, I'll think about it when I'm blessed with a child, but as a start he/she has to be a decision maker... if you teach your child to be a leader and under certain circumstances he/she wasn't able to apply the leadership skills, they might be disappointed or shocked. Also, they shouldn't be followers all the time. All situations depend on circumstances, so I suggest you teach your child how to make the right decision.

I believe that family matters more than work, and I don't want a babysitter to sit with my child more than me and teach him/her stuff they shouldn't learn.

Answer 4

I don't think you can really teach your child to be one or the other, I think alto of it has to do with your child's personality. My girls were raised the same but are totally different. My oldest is a follower, a pleaser, she always wants everyone else to be happy, she is however independent but of herself. My younger daughter was a born drill instructor, lol she can bark out orders with the best of them.

I didn't do anything different with either of them, same family life, same TV time and same family time. They were both nursed, both stayed home with me (I didn't work), both went to preschool, both slept in their own beds. My oldest just has my dad's personality, very laid back and easy going while my youngest is me threw and threw, high strung, on the go, pushing those around us to do the best.

Answer 5

As a single mom it is hard but, I do play with my children and tru play I teach.

Example was playing barbie's with my daughter, and I noticed that Ken always drives. So I let her know that Barbie can drive the car too. She informed me that uncle **** said men where better drivers. She didn't want Barbie and baby to get in a accident.

Don't worry I set her straight.

Answer 6

Salaam alaykum. i don't think of that it really is effective to coach them what number toddlers all of us prophet had. it truly is not any longer important and that i don't think of it really is a good thanks to start up their non secular preparation. What ought to benefit is conception contained in the unseen - that stands proud as the first component taught. so as that contains introduction on the Oneness of God, how He has no helpers, no companions, and no toddlers. Then about Adam and Eve, the prophets and angels and how angels (highly Angel Gabriel) performed a function contained in the messengers' lives (ie. Jesus' theory, Mohamed and the revelations printed to him, etc). those are all important firstly as those will variety the starting place of their understanding on Islam. Taking a at the same time as each day to communicate responsibilities that they ought to carry out in this present day life each day will be good, like respecting and obeying their father and mom, being respectful to elders, no longer gossiping, etc.

Answer 7

verbal communication ...do as I do ..is the best teacher and lead by example...much as I hate the phrase "quality Time" if you can only spare a little time make sure it means a LOT!!I also firmly believe all children should absolutely be held accountable for their actions!!!! No matter the age.

Answer 8

im a stay at home mum so obviously i get a fair amount of time with my 2 children......after breaky we play fun games that are also educational.....they watch playschool at 9am til 9.30 then the telly is off.....back to play whether it be playdough, painting, drawing or building blocks......then lunch....while my 20month old sleeps my 3.5yr old watches a movie of which 8 times out of ten falls asleep......when they are both awake normally 3.00 we head out to run any errands....then its crazy time with preparation of dinner then bath then bed......
i am luck enough to have the time to put into my kids and am rewarded with many hugs kisses and obvious advanced develepoment......i send both kids to creche 1 day a week so i can clean and what not and they get the social activity with other children which i think is important.......
so generally i spend heaps of time with the kids........

Answer 9

Well, my son is grown but the main things I tried to teach him was to respect others and always think for himself. I did work when he was growing up but always had a job that put me home when he got home from school.

Answer 10

Leaders are born leaders, you can't teach them that, you just teach them integrity, thinking, character, love... you teach him how to be a good balanced human being. and that's what makes the difference between a leader of a mob and a true leader.