i am a single 31 year old woman and i have the absolute worst luck with men. the reason this is bothering me lately is because i am a really nice girl and feel i would be a great catch for any guy. im extremely intelligent, i have a great job, make good money, im funny, outgoing, and have an awesome personality. my friends describe me as one of a kind. on top of all this im very attractive (cute and petite, black hair, green eyes, punk rock...) i find guys looking at me all the time and they will either just stare which upsets me (just talk to me! seriously im a great conversationalist) or they will ask for my number and one of two things happens: 1. they don't call or 2. they call a few times, make me think they're interested and then forget about me. somebody please explain this to me because i just don't get it....
2006-10-01 21:58:15 · 13 answers · asked by verykari♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have no doubt that you are a very attractive girl. That's why you are getting a lot of attention from men.
Those who just stare at you probably think that they are not good enough for you, so why bother to approach you! Those who take your contact number, and then don't call, probably feel the same way - that they are not good enough for you, taking into consideration how attractive you look. It sort of makes them feel inadequate.
But those who call you a few times and then stop, is the group that you need to consider seriously. There must be a reason why they are behaving this way. And it probably has something to do with the way you relate to them.
Why don't you call some of them and ask them directly if there is something about you that they don't like?
2006-10-01 22:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by rempuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 08:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow what a great woman, all that and looks too. we r about the same age. i have had lousy luck with women. my problem is i am a pure hopless romantic and have found women i have dated use that to hurt me. i have a crazy personality, i am outgoing, and a little devilish. i am very proud that i have always been loyal and honest. i am not dumb by any means, but i enjoy intelligent people. i would like a chance to get to know u better. if nothing else i can never have enough friends:) e-mail me kiddo
2006-10-01 22:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i don't think you'll find the right answers, but you will have guys giving you their pms and crap, but seriously, it sounds like you just haven't found the right person. There are lots of people that are in your shoes. It sounds like you're a really nice person, and you just might have to be patient and wait for the right guy. Don't worry you're not doing anything wrong, just keep living your life and when you least expect it, that person will hit you like a ton of bricks.....good luck.
2006-10-01 22:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to screen these guys a little better. Don't give out your number, take theirs. Don't do either until they've demonstrated that they are worth your time and attention. If a guy is looking at you and you want to talk to him, walk up to him and talk.
This is all coming from a guy, by the way. If a girl wants to keep me interested, she can't give herself away to easily, needs to be confident and challenge me a little. What I won't stick around for is someone who hands over their number in a second or who seems to need me more than I need them.
2006-10-01 22:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Dirty_Idea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ahhhh the mysteries of love...maybe you come off too confident...guys like to sometimes feel in more control. Im sure you can find a guy...they are everywhere!
2006-10-01 22:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's either you sound too desparate about it or you move with an aura which makes the men around you feel less confident
2006-10-01 22:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by folumon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ones who approach you, the confident exciting guys, are jerks.
You could try talking to the ones who are too shy too approach you. They're probably appreciate it.
And, don't forget, your biological clock is ticking... tick tock...
2006-10-01 22:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really sad question. I am feeling your unhappiness through the computer monitor. send me a picture of yourself and i will give you my honest opinions. I think you may be trying to hard. email me and lets chat. i shall give you a few pointers.
2006-10-01 22:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your extreme intelligence COULD be one of the problems...
2006-10-01 22:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by crossword 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋