my 9yr @ my 9mo old got taken from me in june
i have did every thing i could do to gain them back.
my worst prob. was weed. i still have my slip up but my kid mean so much more to me. i have trouble sleeping and when i can sleep i have very bad dreams.
sometimes i can realy here my baby cry as if she
needs me. my sister has my youngest but she dont have kids is unable. she is tring to keep my baby.
she makes more money but i live for my girls.
iv thought about killing myself but its to hard to quit
how do i get though this? how do i sleep? iv
taken 6 over the counter pills to make me sleepy.
tried tea,what to do
2006-10-01 21:47:01 · 10 answers · asked by stcgoodman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
HI. You answered one of my questions and I thought I could return the favor. Honey, you are loved, you are needed. Sometimes you may not feel like you are, but you are. God loves you dearly. You are His child and He loves you as much as you love your own children. He hurts when you hurt. You talked about killing yourself but I just do not think that is the anwser to this problem. Don't leave that mark on your children. Your babies need you, but most of all you need yourself. Especially right now. You need to work as hard as you can to realize your self-worth and live up to it. You are better than the weed. Better than any durg at all and you are more powerful than it as well. You have given the weed and what ever else the power to hurt your world, but it doesn't have to be that way. Take that power back and fight for your peace of mind and for your children. There is no one in this world that can take the place of you to your kids. They were born to you for a reason. There are things that only you can provide for them and things only they can inspire you to do.
It sounds like you are going through hell missing them, use that power to help you change your life and get them back. I think most judges feel it is best to have the children with their very own parents. You just need to show the world and yourself that you are a fighter and that you care enough about them to want to make things work. Do what ever it takes. Pray and count on the Lord to help heal you and give you strenght in those times when you feel weakest. You are not alone.
Use the dreams you are having as insparation to fight for them back. I think the dreams will stop on thier own as you find more and more peace in this area. Don't use the sleeping pills to cover it all up. Stand up and fight for your happiness and for your childrens happiness.
I wish you the very best of luck and please remember, you are are worth a fight.
2006-10-02 04:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by M C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to social services and apply for subsidized housing and a daycare subsidy. Apply for WIC, food stamps, state health insurance, HEAP and any thing else they offer. Apply for child support now. Payment is retroactive to the day you file. Apply for free lunches at the school.
Take steps to ensure that your home is an appropriate environment for children. Never party in their home even if they are not there.
Do not have men into your home. If you are dating someone who does not have his own place where you can go for some privacy, dump him. You don't need another dependent, and your home is off limits. This is a good guideline for future partners anyway. Your man should be able to offer you a home and some security.
Take a look at what the court will require of you to return the kids. Follow through. Do the things that make you a responsible parent. We all make mistakes, dear. Use this time to grow. You can ask your social worker to help you get everything done that they require for a reunion. Ask this person to establish visitation with your children for you, or what you have to do. See them as often as you can. Do not miss a visitation.
Go to the local Department of Labor, either physically go or go online. Just search for Your State Department of Labor. Do a job search. Is there anything that offers more upward mobility or better pay? Find a job and keep it. If you think your current employer is good, then be responsible with their standards for employment and in a month or so, ask for a raise. Ask. All they can do is say no. Or ....maybe you have earned a raise...ASK.
Review in your head how this situation came about. Don't repeat mistakes. Always respond to persons who are helping. Try not to react. Respond. They will get the impression that you are becoming responsible. Teach people kindly about the person you are becoming. The old image they have of you will fall off gradually.
Your sister's situation is unfortunate. It was very kind of her to take the baby, but that is your child. Do not argue with her. Thank her for what she is doing for your child and in your heart know that the baby will be returned to you because you have done everything the state now requires. Volunteer to be drug screened regularly.
You're paying a high price for mistakes. Forgive yourself your errors and move on. You'll sleep better once you have control of the situation.
2006-10-02 08:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray for strength to get u thru this difficult time. Think, which is more important, you already know. Your kids. Commit yourself to doing the best you can for them, then do it. Be a parent, set good examples, do not let them be ashamed of who they are. Weed can't love you. We all need family and none is better than our own. Pray for an answer and then clear your mind of all thoughts, like a blank screen, then get some sleep. When u wake the answer will come to you. It will take some time but you can prove to yourself and to everyone else that you brought your kids into this world and "you will" take care of them. Then do it!
2006-10-02 05:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Peg B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to decide what's more important in your life. If you love your girls enough, you can kick the habit.
Go get some help and let the "child protection agency" know you are making moves to improve your own life. There are places that will help you "only if" that's what you really want.
If all else fails, at least understand that your children are much safer with someone else than with you.
2006-10-02 04:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you definitely have some problems hun, if you want your kids back you gotta hang in there for them. Sleep I may be able to help, milk works for me every time. Not warm either will make ya gag. Good luck
2006-10-02 04:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Fuzzy Bottoms 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done every drug known to man & put two kids through university.You must have serious drug issues to have your kids taken from you or you live in the U.S. where they are'nt that forgiving.
2006-10-02 04:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by guvner_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get clean prove to everyone that you can do it.
take no crap as in negativity from anyone & DO YOUR BEST TO GET KIDS BACK
2006-10-02 05:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by Kerrie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you gotta live for your girls...get yourself in rehab...straighten up...and get a job..or two...show the curt that you want them and will take care of them....but...you need rehab first.....
2006-10-02 04:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry I dont know
2006-10-02 05:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by boiling boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE call 1-800-SUICIDE right this instant! They can give you the help you need and then help you get your girls back.
2006-10-02 04:51:44 · answer #10 · answered by Meg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋