I have this guy I've been "dating" off and on for about a year...
He's super sweet (treats me with total respect, opens doors, buys me dinner/drinks etc.) but the sex only lasts 30 min (on a good night) and 9 times out of 10, I "fake it" because he's done. But I come away feeling unsatisfied sexually, but feel good in every other way.
Should I continue with him, or break it off???
2006-10-01 21:46:31 · 16 answers · asked by Dolphin lover 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have tried telling him what I want/need, but he seems to not hear me,
2006-10-01 21:51:19 · update #1
Also, I'm 36 and he's 50, so I think it's partially an age thing.
2006-10-01 21:52:17 · update #2
I guess I was spoiled in my past long term relationship, because the sex was always hot and mutually satisfying.
2006-10-01 22:03:47 · update #3
He sounds like a very nice guy so I advice you to stay with him. What you need to do is tell him you are not sexually satisfied. Of course he will be offended but better to be honest and work on it rather than fake it and you will be just as miserable and things will eventually fall apart. Talking is the key. You have a great guy, don't let one little hiccup spoil it for you
2006-10-01 21:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's perfect in every respect EXCEPT the sex part. That's a big part of a relationship. You must educate him. If you marry, it won't get any better. He needs to know how to please a woman and last longer. Talk with him. Tell him what you want. Tell him that you're unsatisfied in the bedroom. Communication is the key here.
2006-10-02 04:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way. Most men are 30 seconds or less. At least this guy treats you with respect. Find some books or read on the internet ways to get him to slow down. He probably is just nervous. Lots of luck with your relationship.
2006-10-02 04:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by glenda576 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 30 mins is good...why do you introduce some sex toys? a vibrator might help you...consider yourself lucky, you could have a guy who treats you like crap and only lasts 30 seconds....give this guy a chance talk to him, it will probably help. oh and by the by he will know if you fake it sometimes....so he probably feels very bad about this
2006-10-02 04:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by loopytoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time, watch porno film first, take a vibrator with u, n play first, when u are aroused, then only invite him to come in. so both of u can climax together. if he is bothered about that, then break off. n yeah !! i think its the age thing! find someone ur own age.
2006-10-02 05:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't everything in a relationship. You could try teaching him the things that you like.
2006-10-02 04:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Meg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try different positions, thicker condoms, get him drunk first, have him mastebate a couple of hours before you have sex. All the above will help him control himself more.
2006-10-02 04:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 MINUTES?? How long do you expect it to last? There are only 24 hours in a day.
2006-10-02 04:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by ( . ) ( . ) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try convincing him to practice to stay longer some men can last a cool 2hrs
2006-10-02 04:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need to tell him that u are not happy with the ending resutls. i mean try telling him in a nice way that u need to be loved on in certain ways and if that doesn't work then i'd say to leave him but in the meantime get u a dildo they work well...lol
2006-10-02 04:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by kelley h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋