I usually buy her good quality presents (as she does me), but lately she hasn't been treating me with the respect I deserve. She keeps making sarcastic comments about my clothes and passes judgment. I really don't feel she 'deserves' anything from me this year, but I might feel guilty if I don't. What should I do? I bought a car recently that took me 8 years to save up for and when I showed her a photo of it she looked surprised and just said, "Oh, a red one". I really just want to get her a card this year and that's it, because I haven't liked the way she has treated me of late. Do I sound un-christian-like?
2006-10-01 21:41:28 · 18 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She is obviouslly unhappy with her life at the moment and is jealous that your's seems to be going so well. Instead of buying her an individual gift, why not buy her something you can share together..... Theatre tickets, a spa day, or even just a massage. Try and look past her current negativity and offer her a supportive ear. If she doens't want to talk or remains negative towards you then leave her a lone for a while. Some friendships don't last a lifetime - they have a time spam as we each change the develope in different ways. Don't keep a negative friendship with someone just because you once liked them.
2006-10-01 21:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buying presents is not a requirement to being Christian. Thats not what Christmas is about for you guys anyways. And if your friend is not acting like a friend, why buy her something? Also its a long way away until Christmas, you guys might patch things up, or break off the friendship by then.
2006-10-01 21:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Juniper C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still early yet and you have a few months to decide, if I were you I wouldn't get her anything, but then again would you feel horribly guilty if she got you something great? If you don't get her anything then it's an obvious sign that the friendship is over, so if thats what you want then no, don't get her anything.
2006-10-02 01:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by floppity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and ask her whats wrong I have just had this done to me this weekend I was at a low ebb not working not claiming agencies are not bothered when i told my True Friend he went round all his mate and had a whip round for me I went into a corner and cried thats friendship for you presents dont matter the greatest present is FRIENDSHIP
2006-10-01 21:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by selbysupper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like the green eyed monster is rearing its ugly head - is your life going better than hers?
Perhaps dont spend as much this year (you have a car to keep on the road now!), but a token prezzie should still say something, without causing offence.
Ho Ho Ho!
2006-10-02 01:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your friend and be honest with her.She probably doesn't realise that she is treating you this way.Don't jeopardise your friendship just because of this,friends can work things through.If you don't get your friend a present, then you would be just as bad as her.If you are a Christian ask yourself what would Jesus do?
2006-10-01 21:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by TG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how you feel and yes still buy her a present.
2006-10-01 21:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by riettebotha2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you sound un-Christian like. You sound like a young lady who has a friend that is behaving like a snob.
Blessings )O(
2006-10-01 21:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't buy her a present if thats how she treats you. Fair is fair after all !!
Good Luck !!!
2006-10-01 21:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by IloveMarmite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people dont always realize that we are really proud and happy to "show off" something and is important for us to feel appreciated... and they dont know that theyve hurt you... if the car was the only reason you felt really bad, i think you should give her a present.
2006-10-01 21:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by lnfrared Loaf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋