Would it be considered "abandoment" if minimal contact was maintained and no support was given, even though the parents have money and they say they will support their own children but don't? How do the grandparents protect the grandchildren and get the parents to use "tough love" on themselves and take responsibility instead of "taking the glory but not the responsibility"? (Grandchildren taken in during hard times but now parents are solvent and able, but won't step back up to the plate.)
2006-10-01 21:18:04 · 18 answers · asked by LookInsideYourself 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It sounds like you have a case for abandonment. If you can find a TOP LAWYER -- go for it. A top lawyer will also put a detective on the parents to see what kind of lifestyle they are having. If it's bad you will have an excellent case! I can see you love and adore your grandbabies!!! Best of Luck !! Let us know if you win!
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2006-10-01 21:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by BARBIE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Zodiac Child, you don't have a clue. Grandparents are very important in the lives of children. And, they do what they do for their grandchildren because they love them, not because they feel they should "keep a record of what they bought" for the kids. Hey, the parents should be the #1 care giver, but grandparents are #2. If the family is a close one, this is normal for grandparents to help in the care of the grandchildren.
2006-10-08 18:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe better for the parents this way and the kids are probably better off with the grandparents, kids are lucky to have them and not put into foster care where they might get separated. Some people choose money over family but they will later on regret it and it will be to late for them because they kids will finally realize what the parents are all about. At least they are getting the love and care and support they need in this hard time.
2006-10-02 04:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why they are leaving the kids. Are they working? My parents are a big part of my children's lives. Both enjoy the time they spend with each other. Now if they are leaving the kids all they time not just when they are at work then that could be a little to much. If you bring a child into this world then you have to answer for the outcome. Sometimes children are better off not living with the parents.
2006-10-02 04:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abandonment in California requires at least one year of no contact, nor attempt to contact. What your situation sounds like is the grandparents, for the sake of the grandchildren, should file for legal guardianship of the grandchildren. It is possible that when the parents realize that they are going to lose official control of their children, they will come back and reassume responsibility.
Tough love needed to be applied to these freeloading parents before they became solvent. Now they have become accustomed to irresponsibility and it will be hard to bring them back to their natural role of parenting. That will require them to give up their new life of leisure. It won't be easy.
2006-10-09 13:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by rac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it is bad parenting if u have a child and therefor get someone else to raise it haveing a child is a life long responsibility not to be taken lightly .Every parent has hard times but what makes good parents and bad parents is the good parents stick it out with their children and the bad parents off load their kids its not ur childs fault if u have a bad day /week/month/year so why do parents do this to their kids grandparents are just that grand parents they have raised their own children why7 should they have to raise their childrens children
2006-10-08 21:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by kell2117605 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grandparents need to keep a record on all that they have spent on the grandchildren (i.e. clothes, food, bills, appointments) and then take the parents to court for custody of the grandchildren or have courts make the parents repay the grandparents and step up to their responsibility.
It's one thing to raise your own children but to have to raise your grandchildren, that's tough.
2006-10-02 04:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by Zodiac_Child 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grandparents should get legal custody or the parental rights. I don't think those parents want to be parents at all. So, take the responsibility away and everything else that goes with it. "Tough, love!" is what I would say to them.
2006-10-09 11:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by dianee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have the resources to provide for their children and choose not to it is bad parenting, or at the very least irresponsible. If they are incapable of parenting due to lack of maturity, then it's a good move for the children, but still a lack of responsible behavior in conception.
2006-10-02 04:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think this is bad parenting, unless they really don't have their lives back in order. And even if the parents have money,still does'nt make them a good parent emotionally,pysically,pychologically,ect. As far as financially as the grandparents I would take the parents to court for full custody of the children and make them pay child support.(COURT ORDERED).
2006-10-02 04:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by 1 Hot Cynthia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋