Part 3 Thanks everyone this is really helping. But now how do I truly start over when everything I do is him everything I think is him. We use to work together I still work there how do I cope? I just hurts so bad! :...(
2006-10-01 20:53:34 · 10 answers · asked by cubby12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if at first you dont succede dust yourself off and try again! Live your life! maintain your self respect and do the things you do! always better yourself, learn a lesson from this relationship and move on! i know it hurts but you can not dwell in that feeling. Look yourself in the mirror and see how beatiful you are! smile and be thankful that god made you with the ability to be loved! some people out there will never get a shot at love because of deformities or mental disabilities. IN FACT, i bet that you should pray and thank God for giving you all the things that you do have in your life that able you to have had a boyfriend in the first place!! until i was 21 i never even had a girlfriend. i was too anxious to talk to a girl that i liked, i felt i was unworthy to be loved. one day i saw a picture of myself and i really liked what i saw. i thanked god for giving me decent looks, a good brain, and a fully functional body. i just started being happier and i started to notice girls noticing me (actually my friend noticed them noticing me and i took his word and made moves to get them that worked) none of those relationships lasted but i now have many memories that prove to me that i am worthy of being loved as well as experiences that taught me more about myself and what i want in my long term mate.
basically do this: Realize that just because you had a boyfriend you ARE worthy of love and you will find it again!
imagine if you never even had a boyfriend and you were in ur late 20s! i just answered a question for a guy in that situation! compare your hurt to his! at least you know that sombody loved you! think about how unworthy of love he must feel!! i thank god for all 5 of the relationships (that did not work out) i have now had since i was 21 just because the alternative (never having anybody) might be too much for me to recover from.
Maintan your self respect: even if you hit a bump here you are still a person who cares about yourself enough to move on and find better for yourself. if you feel that something about yourself is not worthy of keeping a man then work on it and change it!! don't procrastinate!
this one is very important: dont look to others for acceptance, find acceptance within yourself. if he left you then he is the one that is not right in the head. you are fine and he was crazy to think he can do better than you, he is probably just searching for something he will never find!
2006-10-01 21:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Matt G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a rubber band around your wrist and every time you think of him snap it. That will cure you of wanting him very quick. Men do not like women who are sappy over them. Find someone to chat online with. Think happy thoughts. If you do not have a pet, then get one. There are a million things you can do to feel better. Dance, listen to music, write poetry, learn to play an instrument. Read a book. Take some classes. The list goes on and on. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-02 04:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by glenda576 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to start over is to get out there and socialize. Go with friends. Put yourself out there. Work on things for your betterment. Start talking to other guys. Do things that will enable you to not think about your ex boyfriend.
2006-10-02 04:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to move on when your heart is firm set on someone but if love is one sided which it sounds it is,if he is not for you like you are for him tell him to bugger off..you deserve better...you hurting so much shows that you truely cared, more than you can say for the other or you wouldnt be here with this Q.....think about the dream that lives inside you the one that drives your everything and chase down what it is you need and dont settle for less than that....all your hopes and wishes is how someone should be for you and if they truely care foryou they will try and be that...so dont give in get tough and direct with everything
2006-10-02 04:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres no right or wrong way to do it, and it sucks i know. im going thew the end of it right now. the only way to do it is time. you just cant let yourself keep getting sucked back in. i know this isnt a great way to do it cause its kinda selfish and mean but getting a new guy helps a little bit. its kinda shallow but i dunno. good luck!
2006-10-02 04:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by stoned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of something that would make you busy..focus on your work..don't be alone..be with friends..stroll, chat and go out with them..keep yourself busy..don't go to places where you both had gone..try new things..try to discover new places...and soon, youre back again!!same old you before you met him..
2006-10-02 04:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by ladyleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like you never were together before , treat him like a normal colleages...
2006-10-02 03:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by James B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to go on yoga..
2006-10-02 04:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by tariq k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! can't you make decisions for yourself??????????
2006-10-02 03:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the question??????????
2006-10-02 03:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by saz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋