hi out there,
i am getting enganged end of the year with a guy i noe for less than 6 mths.he is not local.well i just feel insecure u can say but it all based on his action or reaction.but tis been like the only reason we quarrel...he say i dun trust while he could trust me.he even suggest i should put a spy cam in his house,is he threatening me or he noe i wouldnt dare.he is kind of famous in his hometown area..gerls juz cant stay away frm him.he use to ask me along everytime he goes back his hometown but now he dun ever ask me.his dad was hospitalized last 3 wk n juz have an operation last wk.i wanted to pay a visit but he simply disagree wif the idea.he say tat he is afraid tat he has no time 4 me when i at there.now he often 4get his hp
2006-10-01 20:52:07 · 10 answers · asked by seeexy_15 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The way it sounds you really need to get to know the ins and outs of this guy before marriage. Never jump into marriage if you really dont know this guy. I was with my hubby 3 yrs before we got married because I wanted to see really who he was and what kind of person he could be. If he this guy your talking about sounds controling tell him to get a camera,for you can watch him. I like putting the shoe on the other persons foot to see what there reaction is. lol Take your time no rush to be married anyways. sincely bubby
2006-10-01 21:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by bub s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should discuss your problem with him without getting irrational and clingly. Have a mature conversation let him know exactly how you feel. However his behaviour does sound suspicious....
I would suggest couples councelling, tell him you think you should do it as it will prepare you for married life.
The best thing to do would be to pay him a "surprise" visit! Just rock up to his city and see how he reacts, if the reaction is a bad one or you catch him with a chick, then you know what to do (dump him) I mean you have to know for sure if you can trust him because you are gonna marry this guy!
2006-10-02 03:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the guy NOW! Knowing someone for less than 6 months is not worth the while to spend the rest of life suffering. Be it engagement or marriage. You instinct & intuition is always right, follow it, and you will not go wrong.
Its better to be friends for at least one year, unless you are one desperate woman who cannot wait to marry.
2006-10-02 09:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by J L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Honey,
If you are uncertain about he's where abouts or what he do.. PLEASE DONT GET ENGAGE WITH THIS TYPE OF MAN..
I dont mean to talk bad about your man, but i as a man; i usually share everything with my wife... but having said this, it also depends on how open would my wife be..
But if it's just you and him, there should not be any one sided game, looks like he only wants to win the game, but not for you.. And it dont seem like a win win situation for you..
Fruthermore, you only knows him just 6 months... i think it's too short a time... it's better to understand him deeply before you share your wohle life with him..
If he dont allow you to know him better, instead of using a comments about "YOU DONT TRUST ME N PUT SPY CAM"..
I guess you shouldn't waste time...
But I may be wrong, i'm may over concern for you; that's all..
2006-10-02 05:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Love69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I don't usually ask but how old are you? Did you stop and read what you wrote? Don't be thinking of marriage, you need time to grow up first. And for heavens sake get back in school.
2006-10-02 03:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer...don't marry this guy. I can't believe anyone would even think about spending the rest of their life with someone who they have known for only 6 months...and that's if eveything is looking good, which in your case it is not!
2006-10-02 04:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sordenhiemer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont know the exact answer,but i will suggest that since this is happening maybe u should puspone the wedding since u have doubt....and it sounds that u really dont trust him and i think there is lot of stuff that need to work out....
wen it comes to marriage all change if u want to work the marriage last....there is lot of changes and work out...so if ur not ready yet then puspone the wedding.....
gud luck
2006-10-02 03:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by capricorn girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move the wedding back, give him some space and see if he comes looking for you. If he misses you he will want to spend time with you.
2006-10-02 03:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop don't look to good to me you need to give it time see what he is up to i just don't like it when he gos home you go with him or you sneak around to see if you can catch him i think that you think that something is up with him he maybe trying to cut you loose good luck to you
2006-10-02 04:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pl donot hurry to marry him
2006-10-02 03:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by Nishikant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋