am 25yrs,I work,I hve my own professional & social life.I believe tht everythin is possible if u put ur head into it.I knw tht a broken heart takes time 2 heal & 4 z pain 2 fade.But till now i may see him in my dreams & tht really exhausts me emotionally.Last time i cried in my dream & whn i woke up i found tears on my checks.Our love was pure & wasn't physical.He proposed but things didn’t go as planned & I knew at tht time tht it was z end of it all.But I kept waitin 4 his call,2 talk about it & hve a proper closure,which never happened.At z time my dignity was so hurt coz I supported him so much in many ways & he knew tht I'll shatter without him in my life.I always believed tht I deserved tht last call & blame him 4 lettin me suffer tht bad.It was said 2 me tht he is hurt 2 & tht he cant even call 2 discuss it.I’ve tried hard 2 move on & to meet new guys.Moreover,my personality hve changed & I know 4 a fact tht we can't go along again as b4.I want 2 4GET him 4ever.What I can do?
2006-10-01 20:25:25 · 7 answers · asked by Tulip 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It looks that despite your good social status and good character, you love the wrong guy. You are loosing much time a busy professional like you should not loose.. Forget all this matter , continue your successful career, come to light , make a clear love and sex affair , do not go back and move forward.
2006-10-01 20:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its more about you not being able to say how you felt at the end of the relationship that is what bothering you. Not so much the man as you said you knew it wouldn't work. And you didn't have a physcial relationship so could it be more he was like a good closse friend a rock you could go to when things went array in your life. You need to heal from this and move on . its been two years this isnt' healthy for you.. I dont' know if you still speak or not. If you do you need to explain how you were feeling not the fact you want to get back together but that you need closure here for your own sake.. If you dont' talk then the only other thing you could do is right a letter as if you were having him reading it. put everything down you always wanted to tell him then read it ouloud to yoru self and then burn it. I know it sounds odd. but this is your way of having closure to someone you'll never talk to again. and it may help you get on with your life. And then you can be more open to finding a good man that fits you better.
Good luck
2006-10-01 20:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to hear your relationship ended in this way. Time is always the best medicine to forget someone. But it is never an easy task. Whenever a relationship fails there is someone who suffers more than the other. But what can you do coz the relationship is already over.
Even both of you can reconciled, I believed that the feeling will not be the same so why forced yourself to do such thing. You have to learn to let go of this relationship. Sometimes when one have a change in his heart, he/she can be really unfeeling. So why bear the agony yourself? You have to put down this relationship before you can start a new relationship otherwise you will always be thinking of the good times you have previously.
2006-10-02 04:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this one. Mine stopped emailing and calling (it was long distance relationship for a while before he was moving up here) and when I finally got him to write back he said there was something about him, I can't remember how he worded it but he didn't explain. So I asked if he was gay. "He wrote back GAY??? How could you think I was gay?" It turned out he had quit drinking and found the Lord and was leaving all of his past behind. He met me when he was a drinker and I wasn't all that religious. Anyway that was about 5 or 6 years ago and it took me at least four years to stop having him and his name cross my mind every night. I think the absence finally sunk in. That and hearing an old friend's voice telling me to stop looking backward all the time. I really don't know what you could "do" to make the thoughts go away other than finding someone new to think about. Good luck.
2006-10-01 21:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by eddweeness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the magic of love...i can only say this to you...if you love the person go for it...i guess sometimes we stumble a lot but these heartaches gives us more strength so the next time we fall we'll know better...tc and goodluck
2006-10-01 20:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by quick_eight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swweetie it does tak time to get over someone you loved but it will get better, just remember that you will find someone oneday. ive been split up wit my ex for 3 years and i constantly think about him and the things he did to me it makes me angry and i still cry cause of it.
i have a constant reminder of him and thats my daughter
2006-10-01 20:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your personallity has changed to the point that you wouldn't work out this time....why do you want to try again...just to hurt him this time?
2006-10-01 20:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋