i feel lonely but the thing that made me feel this way is that my GF doesn't want to do more in out relationship and i do. by more i mean sexual things, i'm not saying sex but i want to be able to do more sexual things with her. we've been together for nearly 10 months and i love her (i know i am gonna get critisized because how can i love her and not be willing to give in and not ask for more). i have a strong sex drive and she has a.....well she doesn't have one at all. yesterday we were talking and i told her that i wanted her and i wished that we could do more, and then some stuff came up and then she said that for her there are 2 options, for her to want me and for her to not want me, and she said it wasn't the first one and i felt crushed. there are three steel walls that block me, the she's not interested wall, she doesn't understand and she doesn't care that she doesn't understand. am i going too fast? am i asking too much? should i change? should i keep all of this to myself?
2006-10-01 18:38:06 · 13 answers · asked by ParadoxZero 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for reading this, i know its long and thanks for anyone who is willing to help, and reading this, thank you very much
2006-10-01 18:38:48 · update #1
i wanna add for anyone else who will help that we do talk about it, well did, truth is that after alot of times of asking to do more i felt crushed so much i dont want to ask/talk anymore because i know i'll end up cruched again
2006-10-01 18:49:29 · update #2
once again i want to clarify that we are not having sex, but i want to do more sexual things
2006-10-01 18:54:38 · update #3
hmm i agree with some of the ppl u should make me feel extra special (HINT HINT) lol jk but yea im sill sorry and hopefully we have fixed this . i think ur idea of restarting our relationship is a great idea. Start with clean slate or something. if we give it a second chance who knows how it might go this time. but yea just wanted to answer ur question (woot woot 2 pts lol). Im still happy because of this. I feel rejuvenated like there is this new spark to our relationship or something. I love you :*
2006-10-02 11:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Beca <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother. I hear you. And I think 10 months in a relationship is not a long one. It may in the Western terms, but that I guess is why you have quickie divorces too!!!!
Okie, jokes apart, I think you should give her some time, you never mentioned whether you guys are making love at all.
Well if you are, then make her happier. You dont always need authorization to play out fantasies that you can do on her, do you???
I say this with authority since I thread down this path 2 years back.
Do things, think of ways that you can spice things single handedly.
Dont bother asking her or telling her. hahahaha which reminds me, I once put some pickle in my gf's crotch and was licking it... She was blindfolded.. And after a few seconds her crotch started burning.. oh boy, that was the worst faux pa in our sexual adventure, but something we always laugh at when we remember.
So I guess that one thing you shouldnt try, pickle.
Try cream, cake, gel, chocolate..... the list is endless. Have a veritable buffet on her!!!! But carefull not to burn her crotch (LMAO)
2006-10-01 18:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you didn't say what stuff you talked to her about and what came up. Well, are you sure you are a couple? I truly think you don't have much of a relationship with her. She is probably using you or seeing someone else besides you. I suggest you break it off from her and find yourself another girl to be with before you get totally crushed. I went through this same thing. I had a girl I thought was my girlfriend and she even told me we were a couple she'd kiss me even tell me she loved me and even told me she wanted to wait until we were married to have sex and that wasnt a problem with me but I ended up finding out that she was seeing someone else and she was having sex with him. And she was just using me.
2006-10-01 18:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by bucksolutions1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry i had the same experience with my ex boyfriend i was the girl.. i always thought it was me that i jus didnt have a strong sex drive but that wasnt it i jus wasnt that into it.. i was able to joke about it later with him but that is one of the reasons we broke up i jus didnt want to. i have been with my new boyfriend now and i want him all the time any time and everytime i look at him i want nothing more than to touch him and kiss him i never felt this way about my ex i did love him alot and he was attractive there was jus no sexuall chemistry and i now relize its not that i didnt have a sex drive its jus i didnt have one with him. i know its not the answer you where looking for but its my story... sex is very importnt in a relationship and you are not wrong for wanting it but if it is this early in the relationship and ur having this problem it may only get worse in the future and if she is unwilling to talk to you about it or do things jus to make yu happy it isnt worth it. in order to have a lasting relationship you need someone who is sexually insync with you good luck
2006-10-01 18:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Emily May 11/10/08 :) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your GF, you've got to respect her decision...there is an appropriate time for your sexual desires and aggressiveness...that is if you've got nothing to worry about and ready to face the responsibilities of being husband and wife...so..u've got to marry her first before doing all these things...we've got to be responsible of all the things we've done....don't put the blame on other people if things won't work out right and when you commit mistakes...
2006-10-01 19:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by maya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems pretty clear that she's unwilling to be anything more than a friend at this time. If you want a more intimate relationship, you'll need to find someone else.
You can still keep this current girlfriend as a friend if you like. Just make sure she knows what the deal is.
2006-10-01 18:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do understand which you and him the two have emotions for one extra and you're additionally friends, yet sweetheart he has desperate to circulate back homestead to his kin, so it is your place to tell him which you think of it would be superb for each individual in contact which you 2 not communicate in any respect. And one reason is because of the fact as long as you're nonetheless interior the photograph he won't be waiting to pay interest on friendly his kin responsibilities, because of the historic previous you 2 share...it rather is nonetheless cheating. And the different reason which will desire to be extra considerable to you is that what form of life are you going to have pining away and speaking to a guy it is married and unavailable? you will desire to circulate on and discover some happiness and somebody who's there and accessible to love you approaches you deserve!! He for sure isn't, and he's in simple terms best you on, and finally he will attempt to have intercourse with you back, and he may even circulate away his spouse back, yet honey as long as there's a spouse and young ones in contact, he won't be waiting to be a hundred% yours!! So on your sake and the spouse and young ones sake...in simple terms enable him circulate!! it is going to harm for a collectively as, yet discover some new issues to do, and a few new friends to loaf around with, because of the fact as long as you're friends with the sister then he will nonetheless come around!! She hasn't achieved something incorrect in simple terms tell her which you will desire to get removed from the completed subject for a collectively as and you're nonetheless her pal, yet you will desire to get out of that mess, considering the fact which you will by no potential come across a love of your individual. solid success!!
2016-10-15 10:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe she just isn't ready to move it to the next level. Maybe you are moving too fast for her. Try to slow it down a lil more, and just make her feel extra special.
2006-10-01 18:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Leroy Is Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...maybe since you have a very big urge for sex...maybe she thinks you are with her justb/c of it...
try doing something different to show that you care..and try not to bring up sex....even if you really want it...she will be like omgosh why isnt he asking for it anymore? u know? try to make her worry and want to know..and if she asks then you just say im trying to respect you and not force you to want me...
2006-10-01 18:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
communication is the key. you need to talk to her about you guys sex life. get it out in the open so you know what to expect when it comes to sex.
2006-10-01 18:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋