What Should I do??

Question

I just started a new job and there is a guy there that i am really attracted to.....the problem is that he is 21 and i am 35 .I think he might be attracted to me as well,but not sure.....Am i crazy for even considering someone so much younger than me......or how can i really tell if he is into me as well without being humiliated if the feeling is not mutual?Please only serious answers,thanks

Answer 1

There are generally two reasons a younger guy would want an older woman. Sex and money. Are you crazy? Well it depends. If you are looking for an ungodly, unserious sexual relationship then go for it. If you are looking for something serious and meaningful then it may be in your best interest to move on. Peace and God bless.

Answer 2

Oh! That's always hard! Being attracted to someone that you work with can be fun- or it can be miserable. Let's talk about some of your options:
-you could do nothing
-you could tell him how you feel
-you could wait and see what happens (like if he approaches you)
Now, lets talk about the consequences of each of these actions:
-doing nothing: You'll always be wondering if he really likes you or not. However, in my personal opinion it may be your best option, simply because this is work, not a bar (or wherever it is you go to meet guys). Do you really want to jepordize your work enviroment?
-telling him how you feel: this could be an embarrassing scenario, or it could be the best thing that ever happens to you- depending on how it all works out. You could be mistaken about him liking you and if you were to tell him how you feel- well, he might look at you strange or even laugh at you. It would be akward to be around him for the rest of your time there (which, if you have to work too closely with him might be rather short-another good reason not to tell him). However, if he likes you, too, then it might develop into a beautiful relationship. But- a word of caution: having a love affair in the workplace doesn't get much work done- and bosses don't like that at all. Plus, it would make everyone else you two work with uncomfortable to be around PDA (if you're into that sort of thing).
-if he approaches you: The first thing you should think about if this happens is: Does he really like me? or does he just want to have sex? Generally, if that is true, then your relationship will probably be short, and afterward, work will be a very uncomfortable place to be. On the other hand, if he honestly just wants to get to know you-if he really likes you, then perhaps something good might come of all this.
Another point: he is rather younger than you. Guys that go after older women generally only want one thing: sex. You have to decide: is this what I want? Or do I want a true, lasting relationship?
How to tell if he is really "into" you-or if this is just normal, workplace flirting: does he give special attention to just you, or does he flirt with everyone? Is he just being friendly to a new worker? How does he act? Is he respectful, or does he like to make jokes all the time? Sorry, I can't think of anymore, but if you do a search on the internet, there are probably all kinds of sites out there with quizes and advice from professionals. (I'm not a professional, just a person with some strong opinions on the matter.)
Whatever you do, don't jepordize your new job! It's hard enough starting a new job, without having to worry about a relationship, too.

Answer 3

I think 21 is a little too young, unless you're just looking to fool around. He's not at an age probably to be ready for anything serious. It's weird, I'm just about 35, and female, and it seems for me...the older I get, the younger I like my guys too! Although, I'm not sure I'd date a 21 year old...that's pretty young...

Again, if you're not looking for anything serious, it'd be fine. But I wouldn't expect the guy to be at a stage in his life to want anything serious, even if he did really like you.

Answer 4

take it slow.....feel around and see what his reaction might be. Keep in mind that younger guys would consider that a "trophy", the fact that an older woman would be attracted to them.
Look at it from the other side of the coin, not just the physical attraction, things you have in common, personality, likes, dislikes........you know, the usual stuff.
If you truly believe that he is worth your time and attention and YOU KNOW there are true feelings involve......then you have the right to be happy.

Good luck

Answer 5

first off becareful. its a working relationship and those can be tricky! but in general age dont really matter if both feel the same. sounds like this is pretty new. start out as friends and see where it goes. let him make the first move, flirt a little but not so much that if it gets akward you cant laugh it off as playing around,and not serious. if hes interrested he'll let ya know. just take time to find out so neither of you get imbarrased.

Answer 6

Don't approach this dilemma with anticipation, just play it out. You like the guy, keep an eye on him, talk casual, stay cool.

If you see a pattern in his interest, play off of that. Get flirty, start dropping hints. If he picks up on it, and reacts well, go a little further, see if he asks you out or ask him to a social interaction, a bar, a movie, something like that... But don't rush it, play it completely cool. Don't worry, younger guys DO like older women!

Answer 7

Since you just started a job I think you should wait until the time is right. Meaning sometime when you and a bunch of friends go out after work, just hang out with him get to know him better. Eventually, things will progress from there. Hopefully you two will go out together. Good luck!

Answer 8

i have several crushes on milfs..haha..hey is he staring at u also? do u think u are pretty hot for ur age? if so he might want u..i dont nkow if he has a fantasy of having sex with someone's mom or anything..but most guys around our age would like that haha its a wierd thing. If he keeps lookin at u and he starts talking to u then he probly likes u and if he suddenly gives u hugs and touches ur hand and stuff..he wants u..probly sexually if ur a hot milf. Dont know if he'll wnat an actual relationship with u or just a sex thing..depends what u want.

Answer 9

Dear Miss,
As long as relationship is considered , age is no bar in it.It is only you who can come to know about his state of mind whether he loves u or not .It is better to ask him then to guess.When i was 16 i was attracted to a woman who was married and having 2 kids and her age was 35.I had sex with her for the first of time in my life .She taught me how to do it.So better ask him .
Yours
Ravi

Answer 10

I think he's to young for you. but hey that's your business.. your probably not going to have alot in common with him. show him some cleavage then u will know, if he's attracted 2 u, you will know soon enough.