Is it ok to think about suicide?

Question

i cant keep a friend, i just lose my job, I'm obsessed with my looks,..and alot of the time i do think about it.

Answer 1

1 You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.

2 Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, “I will wait 24 hours before I do anything.” Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn’t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it’s just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just by reading this page. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing to read this page. Keep going, and realize that while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.

3 People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.

4 Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.

But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what’s going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:

Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans
Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
Teenagers, call Covenant House NineLine, 1-800-999-9999
Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
Call a psychotherapist
Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen
But don’t give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.

5 Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet.

Answer 2

It's 'natural' to think of suicide - the brain casts about for solutions and the easy, stupid ones come up.

Are you on meds? The latest generation of anti-depressants is so effective for many more people than the last. They tend to work quickly, too.

The stress of the job loss and the chronic stressor of poor relationships and obsession with your looks have unbalanced your chemicals and literally cause you to think irrational thoughts, like of suicide.

A lot of times, depressed people's thoughts are so distorted that they actually think their family won't care if they commit suicide. This is grossly untrue and suicide devastates families FOR GENERATIONS.

You seem to be indentifying some problems you have - you need to generate solutions. Being depressed can interfere with that. If you are too depressed to focus on solutions, focus on getting up and out of the house for a walk. Make an inventory of your job skills and a plan for getting a job YOU"D like.

It can be hard to keep friends if you're depressed. That's a lot for other people to deal with and it tends to mean you don't give but take, even if you don't want to be that way. Treat your depression and the other things will improve, too.

If you find that your thoughts of suicide have progressed to the point of thinking about how to do it and how to get the means to do it, go to an ER in the off hours and tell the nurse that you are feeling overwhelmed wtih suicidal thoughts and need medical attention right away. Check now for the suicide hotline number in your town.

Answer 3

Think the other way around.. You might loose your friend, you loose your job, and bla bla bla.. But, is there really nothing that's cherish you.. You might have a healthy body.. that's one , You might have some skills that nobody have, that's two.. You might have someone that needs you, that's three.. , find the four, five,..

I have a job, I have friends even they are not a perfect friend,, but I learned m self that nobody's perfect and so do I..

And the most,, I have a kind of disease that needs a hell of money to be cured.. I might have no one that want to marry me with that conditions, and I don't even dare to think about a beautifull future.. I even consider about having suicide more than once..

But, i look the other way , what so I cherish about my life.. And (if you believe in God,, couse I do) I juz say to Him that,, please show me the light... And please, don't give me even a minute to kill my self.. If my time, is your time, then, I'd rather to let you take my life, not giving up my life.. I try to be sure that there is a way..

Don't be so pecimist.. You know you have a lot of things to be cherished.. We all have,,

Find Jesus, and He'll find you.

I promised you that.

Good luck my friend.. Don't give up, you valuable to have this world.. Juz smile when you wake up in the morning..

There's always light arfet the dark.. If you juz stay...

Answer 4

It is not a good sign when you start thinking of suicide. That is just a step towards doing it. Please take a look a these sites. They have numbers and chat lines to talk about that.

The warning signs of suicide

Suicide is rarely a spur of the moment decision. In the days and hours before people kill themselves, there are usually clues and warning signs.
The strongest and most disturbing signs are verbal - "I can't go on," "Nothing matters any more" or even "I'm thinking of ending it all." Such remarks should always be taken seriously.

Other common warning signs include:
Becoming depressed or withdrawn
Behaving recklessly
Getting affairs in order and giving away valued possessions
Showing a marked change in behavior, attitudes or appearance
Abusing drugs or alcohol
Suffering a major loss or life change

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The following list gives more examples, all of which can be signs that somebody is contemplating suicide. Of course, in most cases these situations do not lead to suicide. But, generally, the more signs a person displays, the higher the risk of suicide.

Situations
Family history of suicide or violence
Sexual or physical abuse
Death of a close friend or family member
Divorce or separation, ending a relationship
Failing academic performance, impending exams, exam results
Job loss, problems at work
Impending legal action
Recent imprisonment or upcoming release
Behaviors
Crying
Fighting
Breaking the law
Impulsiveness
Self-mutilation
Writing about death and suicide
Previous suicidal behavior
Extremes of behavior
Changes in behavior
Physical Changes
Lack of energy
Disturbed sleep patterns - sleeping too much or too little
Loss of appetite
Sudden weight gain or loss
Increase in minor illnesses
Change of sexual interest
Sudden change in appearance
Lack of interest in appearance
Thoughts and Emotions
Thoughts of suicide
Loneliness - lack of support from family and friends
Rejection, feeling marginalized
Deep sadness or guilt
Unable to see beyond a narrow focus
Daydreaming
Anxiety and stress
Helplessness
Loss of self-worth

http://www.befrienders.org/

Here is an 800 number if you would like to call and talk to someone - 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433).

Here is a web site with a suicide test. Check It Out.

http://www.suicidehelplines.org/

Please take care of yourself and please don't act on your thoughts. Life sometimes gets you down, but it is not worth dying over. I wish you the best!!! Things will get better.

Answer 5

It is common for people to be suicidal at times but that doesn't mean you are abnormal or anything. As long as you don't really commit the act of suicide, you are still fine. If you really think too much about it, perhaps it is better for you to seek professional help from a psychologist or counsellor. They can help you improve your interpersonal skills and lessen the obsession with your looks using cognitive behaviourial therapy.

Answer 6

It's not healthy to think about suicide. It can lead to self destructive behavior and maybe even the real thing. I suggest you go to your GP right away and tell her/him what you're feeling. They might beable to recommend you to a councilor or psychiatrist depending on how strong you're thoughts are. But please, don't do it, it isn't worth it, nothing is. No matter how big the problem is you can always solve it. Stay positive, strong and talk to someone you trust if you feel in any danger of hurting yourself.

Answer 7

Welcome to the world of reality! It's okay to think about it as a "quick solution", but as long as it ends there. Of course, we KNOW it's no solution to any problem, in fact, it'll only create more. Friends come and go, jobs are everywhere, and why worry about your looks? Does any of this matter if you're dead?
Talk to someone if it becomes more than just an occasional thought though.

Answer 8

You attract to your life what you think about the most. If your thoughts are mostly negative and self-defeating, that is what you will attract. It all starts in your thought life. Change your thoughts, and you change your world and your reality. If you continue to think about never having enough friends, not being pretty enough, can't find a job...you will attract more of that to you. Examine the thoughts in your head...change them, by writing out how you WANT your life to be, reading it over every day...and you'll notice your world changing.

Answer 9

What you need to think about is all the people you would affect if you commited suicide and how they would feel about it. Come on I'm sure things will turn around for you I hope it does.

Answer 10

it is just a thought , its when you take a drug to get yourself away from rational that it gets dangerous. You need to calm down , I beleive all things happen for a reason, and remember there is someone for everybody. It is hard to give you a honest evaluation on what you look like without seeing you but let me tell you , there is beauty in everyone. Suicide is not a option, look else where, PLEASE !