so i have this friend who i really like. i asked her out a year ago and she said no but were pretty close. im 19 and a virgin and shes 18 and far from it. she has sex pretty casually. would it be out of line to ask her to be my frist. we both trust each other. i dont want it to be with some random girl on a drunken night. what exactly shoiuld i say to her and do u think shell go for it?
2006-10-01 18:25:14 · 23 answers · asked by greg J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't ask her. You also shouldn't think it'll be with some random girl on a drunken night. Why don't you just wait until you meet a cool girl you want to date. Trust me, sex is better when you have the chemistry of it being more than just friends. Also, if it's in a relationship, you can spend more time exploring what you prefer.
2006-10-01 18:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny J 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You have about an 18% chance of that working...
Best way to lose the "V" card, just get into a relationship with someone you really like.
Quickest way to lose the "V" card, parties, lots of em'. Get drunk, hang around drunk people, and eventually, you will win, or lose in this situation.
My opinion, If I liked my friend more than a friend, I would try and start something serious. If I liked her as my best friend, I would try somewhere else. If she was not that vital a friend and I thought I had a chance in blue devil hell to get with my very attractive friend, I would try to advance, NOT ASK... Just advance. A date here, a late night movie at the apt. Or maybe some drinks or the such, both get a little tipsy and see where it goes from there....
Short answer, do what you think is RIGHT. Dont rush it...
2006-10-01 18:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by NappingNinja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to that Jenny person's answer. That's a chick answer. You can ask your friend, but odds are that she'll say "lets just say friends." I think you'd probably have better luck with people in dating situations, where there's no expectation of maintaining a platonic friendship. Also, don't jump into a relationship as a way to get laid. Stay away from serious relationships until you have reached your career goals and know what you want out of life.
2006-10-01 18:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey bro, i think the real problem is that u never actually wanted to be just friends with this girl, and you accidentally got stuck in the friendship zone. you are attrcted to this girl but she just wants to be friends right? it seems that the two of you are prety close and that you realy trust each other. if you are a virgin at ninteen, i reali dont see the rush in having sex. after all you have kept it off for so long, might as well wait for some1 special, seriously. thing is, she might go for it but it will affect your frriendship forever, on the other hand trusting her to be your first might actually be a basis of starting a relationship. so its reali up to you, be honest with her tell her the truth and hopefully things will work out for you. gud luck buddy!!
2006-10-01 18:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by platinum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is something that should be done with that special someone that you want to marry or you should actually wait till your married if your living your life the right way. Myself I did it with someone out of curiosity and I have regretted it ever since. I am now 38. If she is having casual sex. She may have a disease she and you both don't know she has.
2006-10-01 18:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by bucksolutions1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is is hse feeling the same thing. yes maybe you liked her but how about her...
its really hard to have sex for someone you trust and you consider a friend. i also have a close bestfriend wc is a male and he knows everything about me. i can say that i can be drunk with him and not doing anything ridiculous..
you have to understand the others feeling as well
2006-10-01 18:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by crystalink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know ur a guy and ur horny..but save it for a girl u actually like and want to spend ur life with..i lost mines to just some random girl..i regretted...ya it was good at the time..but after that on my drive back home im like..damn what did i just do..u know i dont thnk its worth it..unless u dont give a crap bout ur virginity then go head and ask her..tell her u trust her and uw ant to lose it to her cus u knkown her for a while..that might ruin ur friendship but hey..worth a try if ur willing to risk it.
2006-10-01 18:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she gets around then you probly shouldnt go there. Your better off waiting for the right girl to come along. Dont sale yourself to someone who wont appriciate it. If your askin how to get someone whos been around the block then your expectations are way too low.
2006-10-03 16:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,, hey just ask her out on a date and then see where it leads,, who knows,,you two might be right for each other,,,,
good luck
2006-10-01 18:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your friend , you will never look at each other the same way! Things will change and maybe the friendship to.
2006-10-01 18:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋