I was told that guys red flags go off when a girl cries in front of them or shows emotion. I was also told that guys will run the other direction if a girl over reacts to a situation and freaks out. This situation kinda happened to me. I am head over heals in love with a guy at my church and I have been kinda bideing my time waiting for him to be ready to date again. Well we went down to Cali together, a 14 hour trip by the way, and I over reacted and assumed he had done something that he had not. It hurt him that I accused him of it and despite the fact that he was willing to talk it out at the time, I held onto it and let it get bigger until three days later I litterally BLEW up at him. I used every bad word in the book and it wasn't pretty. I told him today that I was SOOO sorry and that I was just under ALOT of stress this past week but I am not sure he cares.. Do you think I freaked him out? Do you think that theres even a little chance for us to be together in the future
2006-10-01 18:22:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah you're right, most guys don't like psychos. If he's smart, he'll stay away from you. I would.
2006-10-01 18:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Wurm™ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd hate to say that it is over, but it's going to be rough for the next little bit. If you two have been together for a while and this was uncharacteristic for you, you may be fine. Still, being falsely accused is going to altered y'all relationship to some degree. It is no fun to be yelled at for something that happened days ago, I can tell you that. We would much rather deal with a problem the second it becomes a problem, not whenever a girl builds up a ton of anger about it. We expect women to be emotional, but we don't like having to deal with the emotions when they are directed at us. I think you likely freaked him out. Nevertheless, if you can sit down and talk with him, he may be willing to give you a second chance. Just understand that you've lost some of the hand in the relationship.
2006-10-01 18:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by jbmedaris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, everyone is different. I don't know the situation, but when you 'blow up' at someone for no reason or something that was not their fault, it not necessarily a 'red flag'....but definitely doesn't help. Talk things over then and there when things happen, ask questions, draw the line on what you don't want so you will be understood. This helps at the beginning of any relationship and will draw out true colors. Do this and be yourself. If this person can respect that, I would continue to pursue the relationship.
2006-10-01 18:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you scared him pretty bad. You may be able to get him to go out with you again, if you can calmly, and honestly explain what caused to to falsely accuse him and why you felt so strongly about the issue (let him know you care about him) {remember most guys are afraid of the love word}. Your question sounds to me like you limited your attack on him to verbal assault only, a heart felt apology and offer to make amends may help your case. It might be an idea to send in a few of you trusted friends (someone that really knows you well) to plead you case to him. If you frequently detonate on people you may wish to seek counseling.
If all else fails, there is always begging him to give you another chance. Let him see where you heart is, and how you really feel about him. Good luck.
2006-10-01 18:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by MEEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is kinda annoying , frustrating when a girl over reacts or assumes stuff and gets pissed off before just talkin about.But there is still a chance for you two to be together just really let him know you're sorry about and make it up to him. and try not to let it happen again , atleast for a while if you can.
2006-10-01 18:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by willy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age men now more than ever can spot crocadile tears .
An honest cry from a girl can be sexy as hell , its that i am a guy i need to protect you kinda thing , but it should not happen often becuase then we think your "croc-ing " us .
Dont cry wolf .Dont try to manipulate us with tears .
i work in customer service so when a person starts yelling at me every name in the book , then apoligizes later on , i say it doesnt affect me but it does .I never let my guard down completley with that person ever again.
2006-10-01 18:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds exceptionally lame in case you question me. It would not unavoidably mean he's stumbled on somebody else or something like that. adult men lose interest and four years is a exceptionally long term. according to probability Mr. Ex in simple terms needs a metamorphosis of %. or some thing.
2016-10-15 10:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you freaked him out! Guys are pretty simple. Don't try and read so much into the deal. Relax! If you try to hard you will turn him off
2006-10-01 18:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by revlex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to deal with someone who freaks out for no reason. You probably blew it. Although it is said that psychos are great in bed...
2006-10-01 18:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't be surprised if you did freak him out, remember this so in the future you wont make the same mistake. but if i were the guy and your apology felt genuine then i would just call it water under the bridge.
2006-10-01 18:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. you freaked him out. After a week of talking and a chick phreaks like that on me, I'm gone.
2006-10-01 18:25:57 · answer #11 · answered by Juggalo Happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋