a guy out for a date should she be the one to pay? or should it be the guy? cause i think thats a big reason why i have never asked a guy out on a date because i never have money to pay for anything.
so girl ask= girl pays, or is it no matter what guy should be prepared to pay?
2006-10-01 18:03:40 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok i'm loving all of your answers so if any of you could alo answer my other question that would be great.
2006-10-01 18:13:34 · update #1
heh! that's actually a good reason not to ask someone out. usually girls say they want to be asked out by the guy because "that's how it's supposed to go," and it makes me so angry! so kudos for having a legit reason.
why don't you ask a guy out to something fun but free, like an art museum or a community event, or a homecooked meal at your place or a packed lunch in the park?
to answer your question: yes, i think if you ask, you pay. i asked my current bf out on our first date, and i paid. it's only fair.
once you've been dating a while, though, it's okay to split bills or let the other one pay if they offer.
2006-10-01 18:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by woodpecker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever gives the invitation is the one who should host the party, so if you ask a guy on date, then you should pay. If he asks you then he should pay. A guy shouldn't always have to pay, and women who believe this are the ones who end up with lames, tricks, and cheaters, because a guy will get tired of being used as a cash cow or having come out of his pockets all the time for expenses, dinners, etc.
Some guys don't mind paying all the time, and that's cool. But it's kind of a treat - romantic - if a girl "shows some love" every once and while. It really depends on the guy. But at least treat him to some home cooking or a combo if you can. Just show you care even if you can't pay.
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2006-10-02 01:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be prepared to pay. Actually use that to determine what kind of guy he really is. If he offers to pay like he should, maybe he's a keeper. If not, then maybe that will be the only date you spend money on with him. Either way though, I wouldn't make it a habbit to ask guys out places and expect them to pay. Once in a while is fine, but time and time again isn't good.
2006-10-02 01:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by big_j_gizzy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The rule is that you should you offer to pay or go Dutch treat.
I have asked men out and we have always gone Dutch.
You could do some thing that cost no money.
That will take the worry out of the whole situation.
Try a walk to take pictures
Star watching
Hike in the park
Game of chess at your flat
2006-10-02 01:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always been taught to pay for the dinner and dates. I would offer to pay if you asked me out on a date. But if you asked i think you should pay. I mean i would offer as a man, but i think i would kind of expect you to pay. But if we went out again i would definatly pay.
2006-10-02 01:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ben H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl asks = girl pays...guy might be polite and pay anyway, but the girl should always be prepared to pay for both or at least her own way if she asks him out...
2006-10-02 01:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
so when I guy asked you out ...did you split the bill or pay or did he pay for it all ?
Stop think really really hard and you will see He paid for everything.
So if you ask him out then you pay , thats the way it should go.
2006-10-02 01:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you ask you pay but if he has been brought up the right way he knows that he should pay and most guys want ta pay but have cash on hand if he doesnt good luck
2006-10-02 01:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from what i hear its which ever 1 asks 4 the date that pays as far as ettiquett goes
2006-10-02 01:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by superstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, on the first day: whoever asks is whoever pays
but the guy should at least offer to pay
if he doesn't offer, he's not much of a gentleman
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2006-10-02 01:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by dewgongoo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋