A couple months ago i met this girl named ariel. She really likes me and i really like her. The day after i met her, it turns out, that same day, earlier, she met another guy who she fell in love with just as quickly as me. He was there first, so he got her.
Ariel tells me she loves me every now and then. I know she tells the other guy she loves him every now and then, and they go to the same school. She basically wants to be with both of us, and i want her to be with me because the dude shes with now isn't for her. I'm not saying that because i'd rather be with her, i'm saying that because he's cheated on her, and gotten in many fights with her in a few short weeks.
Today, she signed on aim, told me she loves me, (she knows i love her because i tell her alot) signed off.
Minutes later the dude said she asked if she loved him, and he said he did, she said she loves him.
What should i do to get her to want to be with me more than him?
She's the only girl i've ever felt this way to.
2006-10-01 17:55:42 · 18 answers · asked by Nater 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know This is just my opinion but you deserve so much better.. I was in the situation but It was a guy that I really fell in love with... All she is doing is playing you 2.. She is using Love in the wrong way she don't love you the way u love her... But if you want for her to be with you, try telling her everything about how you feel and if she still feels the same tell her that is ok I still love you and say we can be friends Just let her know that you got to get something off your chest.. Please let me know how it goes
Good Luck
Jaimie
2006-10-01 18:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She met two guys simultaneously while she was unattached to any. How quickly can she make a decision in that case who to spend more time with since she didnt know either of you. So she is getting to know both of you and is torn and confused. Two months is hardly enough time to consider that she knows either of you very well. I mean, look at it realistically.
If you want to bow out for a while then do so, but tell her why. Just say, I like you but I'd rather you focus on me now and give the relationship a chance, but you have this other guy as a distraction and partial focus on both of us. You seem like a clear thinking guy, so maybe you should step aside. Maybe, she'll realize that you made the choice for her.
Maybe she wont like your choice and come back to you. ;)
2006-10-02 01:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey the girls not worth your time. He may have cheated on her but she's cheating on you and him, and you've given her permission to treat you like a doormat. You'll realize when you get older if a woman loves you they want what makes you happy and that will make her happy and same way with men if a man loves you your happiness is important to them. So I'm sorry to say this but the girl don't love you or him. She likes the ideal of having two guys after her. She may grow up and mature someday but don't wait around for her you'll only keep getting hurt. The right girl that will love and respect you will come along. Its not easy when you have strong feelings for someone to walk away. But unless you want to keep being treated like this and feeling like you do that's what you have to do. Good luck
2006-10-02 01:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by yogi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man. This girl loves the ATTENTION she gets from you, and not the actual you. It took me all four years of college to see when girls were doing this to me, but the best is to tell her "whatever". Don't play HER game, dude. Play it cool, if you can. Even though you like this girl soooo much, don't play her game. Quit telling her you love her. Be aloof with her, start blowing her off once in a while. Don't sit there and be her little plaything. Grow a pair and just don't care about her for a while. It sounds stupid but it works.
2006-10-02 01:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by NightTrainWooWoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should write a song about how you feel about her and sing it to her. or you should get evidence that this guy she is supposely with has or is cheating on her, (if she doesnt know) and show her what this creap is doing behind her back. Show her that you are better for her than this other guy. I dont know really. I sure hope someone on here can give you some better advice. Good Luck with you and i hope that you end up with her because you sound like you could really make her happy.
2006-10-02 01:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and ask her out rite if she means what she says when she says that she loves you. If she means it, ask her why she is with the other guy(just 'cause he got there first, doesn't mean she has to say yes, not some race dude). If she doesn't mean it In That Way, dump her and move on- plenty of girls out there.(Also, if she doesn't mean it, go ask the other guy if he knew that she was playing you both- most likely she was. Or maybe, they both are just taking you for a ride- be careful not to get yourself hurt. Trust me its happened to me. )
2006-10-02 00:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Bookworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to compete to win her.
If she still says she love a man that has violated her trust by cheating that she is not the girl for you.
There are lots of women out there please chose a new woman to love.
This girl is only going to jerk you around.
Why should you have to share her with any one?
For that matter is your love & affection not special enough to warrant you being the only man in her life?
Please think long and hard about this cause right now and for ever more it looks like you are in second place in this girl’s life. It is a sucky position to be in one that only brings drama, heartache and pain.
Don’t you want to know what is feel like to have some one be in to you and only you ?
2006-10-02 01:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go to hell and that she deserves to be with that asshole because telling two guys that you love them both at the same time is a really bitchy thing to do.
DO NOT get with her. If you do, what's to stop her from telling 5 other guys she loves them? Hell, she could be doing that right now without you knowing. She does not seem trustworthy. Find someone else who's into monogamous relationships.
2006-10-02 00:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...she is confused...you are confused...you need to be careful or the guy is going to kick your bu tt. time will tell everything but if she fell in love with both of you on the same day and she's with him she might just be stringing you along in case it doesn't work with him...i know people say it's possible to love more than 1 person...i think that's really hard at the same time anyway...also if she falls in love so fast she probably falls out that fast too...you need to be verrry careful...good luck and watch out
2006-10-02 01:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the word love is being used way to many times by everyone. people need to stop saying it because its not love its lust. okay now you need to tell her excatly that you cant love someone if shes with someone else, and get her to chose between you and him, tell her that you care for her more than him and that you believe that cheating is wrong, ask her who she wants to be with and go from there. But shes gotta stop saying i love you to others, its childish and needs to really stop and think what it means before that word will soon lose its meaning.
2006-10-02 01:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋