I'm one of those nice guys you hear about. Whenever I'm in a relationship I treat the woman I'm with like she is gold. I'm there for her at all times, and I make her comfort and happines my personal responsibility, but by being this nice guy, I have lost more woman because of it.
I'm not a smothering sort of guy. I need space as much as she does, but when I'm in love with a woman, I want her to know it. I want her to feel special. I do certain things for her that are not ordinary. I make certain she is relaxed and comfortable, and loved.
Well, I have failed to keep women in life because of this behavior. They at first love it then they get bored with it and move on to a guy who mistreats them and slaps them around. This is a puzzle for me.
I am now bitter and wish I could invoke a vengence demon to destroy (or at least make miserable) all the women I have ever met who I have been good, kind and wonderful too.
If you could invoke a Vengence demon, what would it be for?
-Jax6213
2006-10-01 17:41:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're a nice guy and all but there is such a thing as being too nice. "Treat her like gold, be there for her always, her comfort and happiness you own your own personal responsibility (what does that mean? Are you the servant?)" If this isn't smothering then what is? Cool off man! It's like you're keeping a prized bird locked in a cage. Relaxed and comfortable. And loved. Doing certain things that aren't ordinary. I don't even want to ask about that!
You've been good, kind and wonderful. But have you stopped to consider that none of this means much if you are not a human being. You treat these women like they're a goddess or a queen. Or an expensive piece of property. When all you really have to do is just be a regular human person. An equal. A friend. A companion. A lover. And you will still be good and kind.
Yes it's plain to see you are bitter. Now you want to be like those guys who mistreats their women. Quite a reversal from the sweet loving person you say you are. And now you want to invoke a demon! Oh man!... Say you invoke this demon and it comes true. What's to say it wouldn't come back on you. Why would a nice guy, such as yourself, think of doing such terrible evil? Isn't there enough evil running loose in this world already?The only thing that this would be used for is to cause pain and misery to another person(and maybe even yourself). So, watch out for what you wish for as you just might get it.
2006-10-02 00:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a good reason why some women go looking for troublesome relationships. If you're always nice and always treating them right and never really fight, argue or bicker then it does get boring to say the least but more importantly you don't get to overcome problems and obstacles in your relationship and grow from that. And you won't get to enjoy the angry sex that follows an argument. The relationship isn't challenging enough and girls like a good challenge. Revenge is a dish best served cold. So go out and get a dead sexy cold ***** to flaunt in front of your ex!!!
2006-10-01 17:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by shellyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could invoke a Vengeance Demon …
What would I have it do?
A very buff question ….
Personally if faced with this dilemma I would set the demon on a crusade to make people more aware of hunger and poverty. I know not a demons usually racket but it would make a effective deterrent to those that would try to steal grain or money from the poorest of the poor.
2006-10-01 17:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Jax. Hold on before you go invoking any demons. You and I have a lot in common my friend. I am a nice guy just like you and I have been through the very same crap you have described. Trust me. I have been there and I have done that. However, what I discovered was instead of wasting my energy on hate and vengence, what worked for me was turning to God. Don't let your past experiences stop you from being the kind and loving person that you are. You are better than that, and believe me, though they may be hard to find, there is a someone out there for you. After all of the failed relationships, the Lord has finally blessed me with the woman of my dreams. We have now been married for four months. I love her with all of my heart and she loves me with all of hers. If anyone had told me a year and a half ago that I would be married I would have thought they were crazy. If they had told me that I would find my wife in North Carolina approximately 850 miles away, I would have put them in a straight jacket and taken them to the insane assylum myself. However, that is exactly what happened. After my last failed relationship, I had made up my mind to adopt a child, devote my life to God and live as a single parent. Before making this life changing move I thought it would be wise to take the situation to God first. So I prayed. When I prayed I asked the Lord that if their was truly someone out there for me to let it be revealed before I adopt a child. Coincidentally, around the same time I was planning a trip to North Carolina. Three weeks before I was due to arrive my cousin told me about this young lady who attended his church. He talked her up so much that I thought she was too good to be true. And she is. I have never been happier. Don't give up my friend. If God can do it for me, he can certainly do it for you. All you have to do is believe and have faith.
Having been in all of those past relationships with women who didn't appreciate me, has caused me to love and appreciate my wife even more. As a result I am a better husband because of it. Don't let resentment and anger consume you. You are better and bigger than that. Learn from your past experiences and pray like I did. And when you find your soulmate, and believe me you will, love her with all of your heart and treat her right. I will be praying for you. Peace and God bless.
2006-10-01 18:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The step father who molested me for 5 years. Don't feel sad, my relationships go the same way. Good woman dumped over and over again. Eventually we will both get it right. Never lose hope or faith. I always tell myself that was not the right person for you. The next one will be. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Have several girlfriends and choose the best partner for you. That is what I am doing so I won't get hung up one person.
2006-10-01 17:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by glenda576 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, My advice to you as you seem not to care for the outcome of your relationships is to change your choices and date a different kind of woman...
If I could invoke such a demon...I'd set it loose on Bin Ladin
2006-10-01 17:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vengeance is mine saith the Lord! What goes around comes around just leave it alone the good stuff will come back to you.Besides those hoochies did you a favor they made room for God to send you your Princess.
2006-10-01 17:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... im that type of person 2... n i would call up 1 4 the same reason... matter of fact... i think i've become 1 muhself n currently takn muh vengance all on the dirty lustful guys that walk muh way.... .\_/. RAWR
2006-10-01 17:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents taught you to respect women. There is nothing wrong with that. You just haven't found the right one to appreciate you. Just don't stoop down to their level. Make your parents proud!
2006-10-01 17:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by bionicworm1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can n its bad news
2006-10-01 17:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by tommy_8473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋