These are family members who just have issues . I didnt do anything to them. They talk about me behind my back to the rest of my family just because they made up rumors about me. Ever since then, they have given me hell but i think it makes them even more mad that i ignore them anywhere i see them. They see I am happy without them cause all those people they once had against me still talk to me. I honestly got used to living my life without including them or their drama. So now when we have family get togethers, I see them there and laugh and have fun with everyone else but them. I had tried for a straight year to fix things with them but they refused to accept that i could forgive and forget. Guess they like the drama in their lives...Is it bad for me to keep ignoring them?
2006-10-01 17:25:14 · 18 answers · asked by Becky S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this is happening to me as we speak- and I too am just choosing the higher road and still going to family functions and keeping my head held high- in the end you are the better person for doing so. You should still make small talk when you too and it applies to you, but other than that leave things as is-- they will come to you when they see it dosen't bother you-- let them crawl back--- some people want drama- their lives are unhappy and they enjoy seeing someone else that way too-- don't stop going to family get togethers-- you have nothing to hide and have done nothing wrong--
it is a hard road to travel and I hope it gets better for you-- you are already doing the right things
2006-10-01 17:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by lilRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Chinese they believe when you r born in a family it was a faith you were in this family and God believe you will b part of the family, it takes a soul hundreds of years to havea chance to reborn as a human especially the family that the God choose to be.
For me, is not good to ignore them, i don really know what makes them talk behind yoUr back but they r ur family, i believe your parents want you to join them when ever what ever. tried to ignore what ppl talk about you, how you act or what you do, that is you ~!you can do what ever and so can ppl can talk what ever~!that 's y ppl say family is important, when u r abandon by the society or friends , family is the only member who willing to help you. you r not alone in this world, think it this way, when ever you give a smile. you will get a smile back and you make new friends.
2006-10-02 00:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FAMILY...they hate you,they can't get along with you,they start rumors behind your back,that means your family just can't stand you,theres a whole lot of reason to why they act like that,maybe your just better them anyone in your family,families just cant handle the truth that you just might be smarter then them,or maybe you are pretty then the others,and that your able to see life in a whole diffrent way,or plain simple they just can't keep up with your lifestyle...its not point for you to go around try to fix something thats not worth fixing,and then im not asking you to hate your family either...stay what and who you are.try not to let them get inside your head,you'll be fine...
2006-10-02 00:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by lexus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! when reading about you and your family members It's just like It's me asking this question. God this is the same thing that's going on with me and some of my family! this is what i did I moved about 50 mails away from them, I didn't give them my phone number, and when were at family get together i stay far away from them. because i can really do with out them. i get to much bull from other people in the streets, so what you can do is when one of them speak to you don't say anything, because we are so much better then them. find family on the other side like maybe your farther. you may not choose to move but it sure help me not to look into their face every day. now i see sudden changs from some of them.
2006-10-02 01:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to confront the problem head on....the longer it goes on...the longer it goes.....just be the bigger person....go to them and let them know...you are not sure what it was that you did to offend them(even if you did nothing,but it's an ice breaker) ,but you are here to apologize because you are family and family shouldn't do this to one another. You will get all you need to know right there. If it's possible...talk to someone who knows first hand what is going on...so that way you know someone in the family knows you tried to fix the problems....It doesn't mean you need to all go out to lunch afterwords...but the invisible strings have been cut...Then leave it up to them to make their own choices....continue to smile and greet them when you see them....you are the bigger person....so show it....
2006-10-02 02:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I would be friendly when I see them. Pretend you are happy to see them...That way YOU come out the better person and they wonder what the heck is going on with you and feel like something someone steped in walking through a cow pasture.
2006-10-02 01:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some similarities going on right now in my family, and ignore them every chance I get, I don't think it's bad to ignore, it just proves a point, and maybe when they see it's not bothering you it will stop.
2006-10-02 00:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥lawrencesgrl0♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you answered your own question.
So long as you are happy in your life with out the influence of nasty liars, then you are on the right path.
All you can do is let them know that when they are ready to bury the hatchet, you are ready to listen.
Apart from that, keep ignoring them and keep on enjoying your life!
Good luck!
2006-10-02 00:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by Fuzzy Wuzzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not bad. Just don't get mad at them and either act all good around them or ignore them. If they hate you make them mad by doing nothing! =)
2006-10-02 00:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by live_laugh_love l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father disowned me when I had a baby with no husband. I was 38 years old at the time. It bothered me for a while but now I say "screw him". I don't need him. I say ignore them for as long as necessary.
2006-10-02 01:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋