My three year old back talks her step dad. She loves him one minute and hates him the next.... please help/
2006-10-01 17:23:21 · 11 answers · asked by sexyghostgirl69 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You don't do a thing, it's not you who's being talked back to. This will need to be handled by stepdad with your blessing.
Have him get down to her level and say "do not speak to me that way. I want you to apologize". She wont lol. Then he needs to put her in a time out place to think about it. Perhaps her bed. This is NOT a punishment, btw, this is discipline. Your job is to back him up and agree, but don't interfere.
She really is trying to figure out whether or not he loves her, and how far she can push him. All of them do it, whether stepdad or biological.
2006-10-02 01:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out where she's learning it from. If you are sarcastic, your kid is going to be sarcastic. If you curse in front of your kid, your kid is going to do it too.
this also goes for what you let your child watch on TV. My nephew kept calling people stupid and we couldn't figure out why. Then one day we saw - He was watching Thomas the Tank Engine (innocent enough no?) and one of the trains was calling another stupid. Of course there was a lesson involved in the show, but he wasn't old enough to grasp that.
My nephew doesn't respond really to sitting in the corner or in the chair. What he can't stand is when we ignore him. So maybe when she is mean, tell her its wrong and then ignore her (and everyone else) for a while until she says she's sorry.
2006-10-02 00:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Snuggs77 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That just sounds like a normal 3 year old to me. They are always "testing" you for reactions so they learn what is okay and what is not. I would mostly ignore her when she says "hateful" things and give her some praise when she says loving things.
When my daughter used to get angry and say she hated me I just said I was sorry to hear it, but I always love her, no matter what. Since she never got a big upset out of me, she got bored with it pretty quickly.
2006-10-02 00:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by busybody12 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to argue with her when she does talk back. Get down to her level,and talk in a calm stern voice. Let her know that she cannot talk this way.
If that doesn't help, a nice swat on the tush is a good reminder.
Good luck Hon.
2006-10-02 00:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents slapped me on the mouth a few times and as i got older a few of those lil "reminders" kept me in my place. i rarely ever talked back to my parents. now THAT is some good parenting. i don't care what others say- physical punishment is the best kind. i wouldn't dare talk back to my parents and if u smack ur kid across her lil mouth every time she backtalks, she'll eventually get the picture.
2006-10-02 00:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by ♥_mrs.smith 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is testing the limits. She needs to know you and your other half are the boss. A simple stern and loudish "Beg your pardon miss" may be enough to shock her. I do this to my neighbours rat of a child and it's amazing how quickly she changes the subject and is a nice girl.
2006-10-02 00:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
see all these people can teach you is hit hit and hit...just because they were hit when they were lil they think its ok to hit that proves that hitting only teach hitting..i hope that you will not spank your three year old just because these people have advised you..be a mature parent if you gonna hit her she will hate her step dad more...handle her like a mature parent..talk it out with her..explain her that daddy is good she will understand...
2006-10-02 02:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by cool k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where did she learn that from so early, Mine is 11 and we still struggle with it, A pat on the mouth never killed anyone.
2006-10-02 00:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by lisa_in_ok 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do what so many parents need to do and spank your child.
This is the time to show her that certain things are unacceptable.
2006-10-02 00:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Electric_Napalm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
exactly pop her in the mouth everytime she talks back and I bet you that she will eventually STOP talking back completely
2006-10-02 01:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by ~DANiELLE~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋