does anyone else have the same problem as me at weddings during the father/daughter dance? my dad whom i was very close with, passed away a year before i got married--i was 21 at the time, and ever since it always tears me apart at weddings when the time comes for the f/d dance. sometimes it's easier than others, but on the days when it hits...it hits hard and is kinda embarassing--i hate crying and esp around others!.
can anyone else out there relate? how do you get through it at weddings? (aside slipping out of course)...which i do sometimes.
2006-10-01 17:21:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have this problem but not at weddings- I have it at sporting events. I used to go with my dad alot and since he died I find when they sing the national anthem to bring me to tears. I used to feel bad, but screw it. You have emotions and its great you feel comfortable enough to show them. Dont slip to the bathroom. bathrooms at weddings can be nasty! ENjoy the memories of your dad.
2006-10-01 17:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by richard w 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to think of a special moment you had with your Dad & as the bride takes the floor with her father remember that moment with your Dad. Maybe a special hug & a funny story you shared. Wear a piece of jewelry he gave you if you have one & hold it while remembering the happy times with your Dad. Good luck, I lost my Mom 9 years ago & every event with my children & grandchildren I think of how she would have loved to be there & I remember her voice telling me how proud she was of me. No one knows why I am smiling.
Practice thinking of that special place you will go to be with your Dad during dance. It will work I promise. 5 years of counseling @ $185 an hr has taught me to live with my Mom's death & remember the happy times not the loss.
2006-10-02 00:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anyone else you are close to that is a male? You could dance with your husband or grandpa or a male friend or relative. I am not close to my dad at this point and if I ever get married I will ask my moms ex husband (never lived with them either so its not like he was a father figure but he is nice and I like him) to step in. I think he would be honored and happy as he has no kids of his own at this time.
2006-10-02 00:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My father had died two years before my wedding, so I danced with my brother at the wedding. It doesn't bother me at all to see other brides dance with their fathers - I guess I see their joy.
2006-10-02 12:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could dance with your father in-law. He would be so proud to think that you would want him to dance in your dad's place. Good Luck my dear,and enjoy your wedding I hope you will have many years of happiness. God be with you throughout your life.
2006-10-02 00:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
People understand dear, that no one lives forever...maybe you can borrow someone else you are close to during that time to be your 'dad' for that dance.
2006-10-02 00:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by Fun and Games 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cry when I watch Extreme Makeover Home Edition - every time! (hope that makes you laugh!) My husband just looks at me .....
(you have every right - don't get embarassed, you're human for cripes sakes- your Dad wouldn't want you to, hmmm??? - he's up there watching over you, ya know.)
2006-10-02 01:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by hey you 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋