Hi! I am 18 and I rarely get approached by guys my age. I am asked out by always much older men or I have guys that say they want to stalk or kill me (yah true story :/ ) or like recently a group of guys hollered and said "your so hot you fine piece of ***"-it upset me very much and was very degrading and I almost feel like all guys are like that. :( anyways, I am sort of shy but not around my close friends. I love laughing and smiling a lot and I am always friendly to everyone I encounter. I am a Christian and apart of that I have decided to save myself for marriage. My best guy friends and people tell me I'm beautiful which I don't feel, I feel like I must have an arm growing out of my head for them to not approach me. I feel like the only guys interested are the old men or stalkers. What is wrong with me?? I try to always be nice to people, but it seems like guys don't want the good girl. Is there something wrong with me?? Thanks for any advice and God bless!! :)
2006-10-01 17:19:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also a girl I know is very mean to all of the guys in her life, including boyfriends yet they all seem to want to go after her..why is this??
2006-10-01 17:20:58 · update #1
well let me just put this to you in easiest way possible.
1) you are a christian! so am i, so rock on, but to other people that is a very domineering factor in a relationship. they think that just because your a christian your going to be all uptight and no fun at all. There is nothing wrong with you. maybe you need to be putting yourself in a more christian enviroment so that you will be exposed to guys who aren't so transfixed on what you look like. i suggest maybe going to christian concerts or becoming active in a youth group. Those are great ways to meet other people that have the same goals as you. i just met my girlfriend while i was helping out at vacation bible school. (p.s im only 16). ne ways all im sayin is there are plenty of guys who have been waiting all there life to meet you and don't even know it. If you really want happiness you should pray about it and ask God for guidance. Only he can give you the true ansewer. hope this helps and if you need ne thing else just let me know
2006-10-01 17:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by no_solution 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them and know that you are doing what is right for YOU...that is all that matters. I was the same way--I'm more confident now at 30 than I ever was at 18. I did marry an older man though--he was stable, dependable, kind, and wasn't looking for a piece of @ss--you know?
Though guys are out looking for 'hot chicks' the one they want to settle down with is the good girl. Just stay yourself, stick to your guns and don't give into the whole easy love BS. You WILL find someone the cherish you someday. For now, enjoy your friends, be witty, fun and kind, and trust in them, they probably know you better than you think they do. And tell the stalker old geezer guys to step off!
2006-10-02 00:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jen-Jen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it just seems like the area you are around all the time are the same type of guys the really loud and just plain rude men. there is nothing wrong with you at all, either guys see you as a type of girl who they think is really pretty but they believe they have no chance with you and they deserve less, or they are just shy around girls like you. you just dont need to worry about when you are going to meet mr right. he will come when its time. in the mean time just hang out with friends and have fun, your still young yet and i know you will have a great guy heading you way before you turn 20. so in the mean time try to get out and go new places, met new people. there are good guys out there. guys that are 18 to 20 are still pretty imature yet, thats why guys older know what they want and when they see you they know you are somthing worth getting. so just wait guys do grow up, give them a bit more time though. you will find him and he will find you.
2006-10-02 00:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just like a *****. Not sure why. Prehaps the domineering personality is attractive like when chicks dig the bad boy. I think usually only older men want to date you because they've probably come to a point in their life where they've been with shallow vindictive women and finally want to settle down. Don't worry honey it's not that there's something wrong with you it's just that these boys aren't yet ready for a real woman. You need to find someone your age with an old soul. You need to find a real man that's not a real old man!
2006-10-02 00:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by shellyn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can almost guarantee that the reason for this is simply that your shyness makes guys unaware if you are interested in them. I answered a similar question the same way. You need to put out the"vibe" to show you are interested... laugh at all his jokes, act interested in everythinghe has to say and do some light touching (ie. when talking to a guy, make eye contact and put your hand on his shoulder or so something silly like say "come here" and grab his hand and walk him to see something outside). Guys will take these hints as you being very interested
2006-10-02 00:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Trust me don't go around looking for a man. You are just gonna have your heart broken. God already has the right guy for you so just relax. Your guy will come along. I went looking for mine in 5 different countries only to find out she lived a few miles from my house.
2006-10-02 00:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by nice_simple_guy82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. The right person will come along sooner or later.
Guys ask the exact same questions too. Guys think all girls like loser guys who treat them like trash. The girl you know does the same too and gets attention. Would you really want to meet those kind of moma's boys?
Aim high, focus of your studies and career and the right man will come.
Patience.
2006-10-02 00:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i'm a christian too and i was happy to hear you are saving yourself for marriage (atleast some people have some sense these days). Girl, there is nothing wrong with you! There is someone that God made especially for you! But good things happen to those who wait. OK? Please don't fret about this. You'll be okay and GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-02 00:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by crushncream101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am younger than you... so I do not know that much! But you are probally really pretty and some guy probally does like and is too shy to ask you out!Or something like that. I am Christian to and am also saving myself. God has a guy for you and he is going to be perfect. Its like trying on jeans... you have to try on some ugly ones to get the perfect pair. I will pray for you!
2006-10-02 00:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ali R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DOn't know about the first part but the second part is bad/rude girls in guys eyes seem more perverted and so all they want is pleasure from her So most of th guy gender are perves but not all and true loves is there for you some where.
2006-10-02 00:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by jacob_advice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋