Ok here goes:
I’m 15, this girl is 13: ITS only 2 years
A few months ago, me and this girl were really close, we would talk and flirt all the time, and this went on for a while, well eventually people started talking about us, being so close, and wondered if we were dating. She started backing off big time, and seemed like something was bothering her. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said idk maybe. I took it as a nice way of saying no. Well she told her friends she just doesn’t know, because I’ve liked many different girls b4, and she just want to see if I could stick with her for a while. Well months passed, and we got further and further away. I wondered why? Well she and her mom are REALLY close, so I asked her mom. Her mom said she was just really scared, because we have been friends since age 7. Well then she told her friends she just doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. It got to the point were I couldn’t stand it anymore. So I emailed her this about a month ago
can we please talk??
I've got to tell you something, because, well, i just got to know.
I really like you, alot. And it seemed like you used to like me. But now, it just seems like you are really really trying to avoid me. I mean, i know youve been busy and all with swimmin, but like since carrowinds, we havent talked, barely any , at all. It seems like you just dont care about me. I mean, i feel so confused, because, for some reason, you just stopped talking to me. Why? I mean, are you trying to get me to take the hint? Or what? I mean i really dont know what to think. Tell me anything, tell me that you hate me, just please please be honest. Remember that thing at carrowinds, guys cant stand when girls beat around the bush? Well, if you dont like me, please just tell me straight up. My feelings wont be hurt. And if you do, but just arent sure, just tell me. I wanna be there for you, I want you to be able to trust me, and be able to talk to me, about anything
This is what she replied
hey,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later.
This is what I replied
hey!!. thanks for being honest with me. I really value our friendship too, and if you don’t feel comfortable, because of ruining the friendship if something were to happen, that is cool with me.
Now to me, that sounds like two things (1) she doesn’t want to ruin a friendship, cuz we’ve been friends since age 7 or (2) shes just letting me down easy. But now she is flirting with this other guy, like she used to do with me. But she seems more comfortable around me than she did before. But when she sees that I am not going out of my way to see her, she seems to talk to me more, and flirt a little more, almost like she don’t have me anymore. And sometimes, Ill catch her looking at me, and when I look she’ll look away. And then sometimes, her body language, she just seems sad, like she wants to tell me something, or likes me or IDK what, its just she seems different since we talked about it. But I mean b4 she really seemed to like me, and IDK why she just would have stopped. , I mean I’ve like many girls, just none like this, When I wake up sheds the first think I think about, and the last think when I go to sleep. I just cant let her go.
My question is do you think she was letting me down easy, or is just scared, and what should I do about it? And please don’t tell me I’m too young
2006-10-01 17:16:37 · 7 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your 15 you will love a different girl in a few days lol it will be ok this girl is not intrested in you.. Move on find someone that likes you as much as you like her
2006-10-01 17:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She gave you her answer.
It does not matter how much you analyze every angle, she said she only wants to be your friend.
Trust me... be her friend as she requested, and do NOT push.
There is nothing worse than a guy who keeps after you when you don't see him as a romantic interest.
Yes, you think about her, but she said what she still wants "I want to be your friend" and you MUST follow her choice. You cannot force yourself on someone.
Yes, you were more than "friends" at one time, but at 13 and 15, you should be making friends with many others and "testing them out" to see what you will eventually want in a "romantic friendship" when you finally settle down -- which by the way-- should be LONG from now :)
Trust me.... you now think because you still have feelings for her that you will never have feelings for anyone else...It is not true. (I'd underline that last sentence if I were able :) ).
What I think you SHOULD do is to get out and be friends with other girls, "friend friends", "romantic friends" or whatever... but do not waste time "mooning over" her.
Just be her "pal friend" for now...
I hope you take my advice and others can come up with some more good advice for you too.
This is from my husband (he's very smart, so listen)...he says to you:
"The *hardest thing* a guy can learn is how to be "just friends" with a girl. Some guys never learn this. You will go farther with girls, if you can just be your friend, than if you always try to be a romantic interest. And you will have way more fun doing this."
(He knows what he's talking about ;) )
2006-10-01 17:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by AG959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a few, the great recognized having been 17 october 1989 while there was once a fundamental earthquake in California throughout a "World Series" three-hitter. Had it now not occured my brother woulda been on Nightline with Ted Koppel afterwards.
2016-08-29 09:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hit the road. It's what I did when my favorite character in a book series got killed off. I just stopped the series. And if I stopped with a book series, I hope you can stop this heartbreaking romance.
2006-10-01 17:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that she just wants to be friends with you but doesn't like it when you show others attention because shes afraid that if you end up with someone else you wont be there for her if she needs you so that's why she will act kinda flirty just so you will keep some attention on her
2006-10-01 17:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by ordinarie_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok 4 future reference, try giving us the summary of it all, you'll get way more answers if u shorten it a bit
2006-10-01 17:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Diverse Insanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puppy love....you guys are so immature!!
boy, all I can say is that..she loves you! just shy....that's it!
2006-10-01 17:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Bibi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋