I am going out with a small group of people - maybe 4-6. I know one is broke so I dont mind paying for him. but the others are cheap beyond belief.- nickeling and diming on the bill- you know the type- I had water and suzie had a diet coke (which cost $1.00). Would it be appropriate to ask for separate checks? Or am I being wrong somehow in not wanting to overpay for the cheap people but dont mind paying for the guy I know is struggling? The past two times I've socialized with these people has cost me more than I bargained for. Or should i just decline the invitation?
2006-10-01 17:15:50 · 6 answers · asked by richard w 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you're going to stress the whole meal, just waiting for the bill to come, then rather leave it. You guys should really work out a system if this becomes a regular thing. And why is this broke guy coming if he's broke??Careful, that they're not just expecting you to pay. But separate bills are cool, especially if you go out a lot. Just privately let the broke guy know that you're treating him.
2006-10-01 21:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by HumbleOpinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always ask for a separate bill, unless it's been established beforehand that a specific person is paying. Then if I choose to treat someone from the group, I can simply collect their bill with mine.
2006-10-02 08:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Angela B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sort out if you have a good time with this group other than the bill time.
If you don't - don't go. If you do, I think your solution of asking for separate bills (& quietly asking the waiter to put your 'broke' friend's bill on your own.) might work.
2006-10-02 00:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they adopted you as there pocket book, let t hem pay for there own , or decline the invitation might be good.
2006-10-02 05:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely ask for separate checks, and don't be afraid to pick up the check for the one you know can't afford it.
2006-10-02 00:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by LatterDaySaint and loving it 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no problem with asking for separate bill. "travel with equals" better yet dine with equals.
2006-10-02 00:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋