Im 15 and i just moved into my mom's boyfriends new apartment a month ago and today out of no where he decides to hit me. Never happened before but he's a drunk and hes been beating on his 16 year old son which explains why he's so beyond being helped. I want to know what am i suppose to do about him. I know he's going to start to puch me once my step brother moves out. What am i suppose to do when he comes after me?
2006-10-01 17:12:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Here are some options:
Tell your mom. Tell her you need to be safe, and ask her to send you someplace safe. (Your dad's, a relative, some friends.)
Tell your school counselor. They will have to contact the protective services social workers. They may be able to place you in foster care. If you have a friend's parents who can qualify to be licensed foster parents, they may be able to take you in and the state will help pay your bills.
Call the police as soon as the violence starts. You sound like you're almost used to it, but it is not normal and it can lead to someone being badly hurt or killed. You sound smart enough to figure this out.
Find an adult you trust (a friend's parent or one of your relatives) to go to if you need to get away. If you have to, go to a runaway shelter. There are resources out there to protect you, and you do not deserve to be battered.
(And in spite of what "Servant of Jesus Christ" said in the answer above mine, do not pull a weapon on him. He could easily overpower you and in rage turn it back on you.)
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2006-10-01 17:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first tell your mom.
if she does nothing.
tell a school guidance counselor.
if at this point notheing happens go to the police.
however you should also be ready and able to defend yourself.
try to get your mom to enrol you into some martial arts classes.
I would reccoment Hap Ki Do, or Jeet Kun Do. if that fails look for womens defense training in your area. it is usually free and confidential.
however if you go to the police and he has to explain to the cops what happened and even if he gets off it will send a very clear message that you are not to be messed with.
this is a mental thing. hitting is not about causing pain it is about asserting dominence. if you allow him to make you afraid of him he has already won. follow the steps.
first talk to your mother.
second talk to a school guidance counselor.
third talk to the police.
either way after you tall the police he will probally be booked and on record as an abuser. and if he has any previous record it will show up. he may go to jail.
if your mother is worth 2 cents she will take you away from the situation or at least tell him that it will NEVER happen again.
you cannot take this behavior lightly. if he will hit you while he is drunk he may go further than that. learn to defend yourself. but do not look for a fight. if he ever leaves a bruise on you call the cops right away. if you have a bruise he will go to jail.
2006-10-01 17:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your mom living there also? Tell her about it. You need help - perhaps go to an Al-anon meeting (for families/friends of alcoholics) and ask them what to do. You may need to call the police if it happens again. You may also need a 'plan B' place to live temporarily.
Good luck.
2006-10-01 17:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mother and if she don't do anything call the police if it happens again or u can do that right now if u want but u don't need to be in that situation and neither does his son, i have been there and done that and the police will help u especially if he left a mark,
2006-10-01 17:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides talking to an adult, like maybe a counselor at your school, you should start going to church and start praying for this man. If your mother is living with her boyfriend it is obvious that you don't belong to a family of faith. But that shouldn't keep you away from God who will work supernaturally in your life and in the lives of those whom you pray for. Maybe God has allowed this situation to come about as a means to show you your need for Him in your life.
2006-10-01 17:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LEAVE!!! Do you have a friend to stay with? Tell your mother, then tell her you are going with or with out her. Just because she wants to live with it doesn't mean you should! If he does hit you again, call the POLICE and make a report, press charges, the works! Get a restraining order against him. PLEASE, do not tolerate that for yourself, you are better than that!
2006-10-01 17:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Gardener for God(dmd) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are to afraid to tell your mother then by all means do as Epona Willow says tell someone so that something can be done.
2006-10-01 17:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by buttercup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell an adult that you trust. Go to a teacher or school counselor. No one deserves to be abused.
Blessings to you young one )O(
2006-10-01 17:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and have him arrested for battery. If you let him get away with it, he'll only get worse. I hope you don't stay there long.
2006-10-01 17:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, move out.
If he comes after you while drunk to cause you harm, stick his *** with a steak knife.
2006-10-01 17:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋