i have..... and im going through the most difficult time forgetting those memories out of my head.... plzzz help... i do try n get busy but nothin seems to work,,,yes i go out with friends go play.... go gymin etc... but end of the day when im home..it starts haunting me every night.... i even land up crying...
2006-10-01 17:00:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The sad reality is that nothing but time is going to help soothe your wounds. When you have ended a relationship, especially when it's someone you had strong feelings for, it's going to be hard. You should continue to keep urself busy to keep your mind occupied and just cope. Been there done that and believe me, you'll get through it.
2006-10-01 17:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by shortys_a_rider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to move on after you have ended a relationship. I have been through several breakups, and they all were hard. Some were much harder than others. I think that you need to make sure that whatever the situation, you have made it final in some way. I find that the ones where we addressed everything and moved on like adults are much easier to get through. The ones that were left hanging in some way are harder. (example: My ex and I were on and off for 7 years. I met someone else and got married, so did he. He also has a child now. He e-mailed me about 4 years ago and told me he was sorry he couldn't give me the life I wanted and that he was happy where he was. I told him I was happy for him and was happy with my new hubby. I congratulated him on the birth of his daughter. We agreed that keeping in touch was not a good idea and we said goodbye. I can look at his pictures now with no problem.)
Time helps, but you also need to finalize the situation in some way and just put it away like you would put away your winter clothes. That means physically putting away the pictures, the gifts, the stuff from the relationship. Then, you need to cry yourself a really good cry, then put away the whole thing and tell yourself it's time to move on. If you need to say something to him, then do it. Get it all over with so you won't need to address it again.
2006-10-02 00:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts terribly isn't it? Though i believe that time will heal all wounds but hasn't worked for me...its a year and I still cry... No matter how much busy u keep yourself it still hurts... But the best way I deal with this pain is music or dance... sometimes just write down on a piece of paper how u feel and cry out what u feel... tear the paper up and u will feel good... probably he was not meant to be... we meet wrong people in life so that we can treasure the right person when he comes along... hope u feel better soon...
2006-10-02 00:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by teddylove_04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have loved and lost, in 2003 my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with me at my graduation. I felt lost for months. I drank myself stupid all summer trying to forget his and the life that I had built for us in my head. Even went drinking and driving, almost killing myself and a friend. He started dating someone else about 7 months later in december of 2003, and on september 17 2005 they got married. They just had their one year anniversary.
They say "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" To all those people I say:
"TRY IT"
now i am not here to give any advice because you didn't ask for it but if you ever do just e-mail me peteymac_7@hotmail.com
2006-10-02 00:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone hasn't loved and lost, then they've never loved at all. Doing things is only part of it, you also have to focus on you at home and give it time. When you come home, pamper yourself. Give yourself a bubble bath, manicure, pedicure. Make some really yummy food, not junk food mind you, but make yourself a nice meal. It will take time, but doing things that make you feel better will help.
2006-10-02 00:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do.... many times before..
its is indeed very difficult to forget someone.
he was my life,and it was as if every thing reminds me of him and the things we used to do.. (its almost two years now since that day, but still i cry at night just thinking bout that....)
but just always keep in mind that "the scars it brings will never fade but time will heal the wounds"
2006-10-02 00:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by _♥w!ntER pr!ncEss♥_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the expression "time heals all wounds?" It's true. One day you'll wake up and realize it doesn't hurt like it did before - it's lessened. Then one day you wake up and realize you've reached a place where it really doesn't hurt and you start looking ahead. You feel like yourself again and you don't feel like you're still carrying a huge burden around.
2006-10-02 00:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have loved and lost and I have to say it hurt worse than anything...... I hate to tell u this but your gonna be crying for awhile yet. If it wasn't for family and friends I don't know what i would have done. I wish you well,, I think the old saying goes It's better to have loved & lost than never loved at all.
2006-10-02 00:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does get easier with time. Crying does help so allow yourself to cry when you feel like it. Keep doing what you are doing and in time you will be healed. Good luck to you. Take care
2006-10-02 00:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i have an it does get easier the memories will always be there an that's hard to get rid of but at the end of the day u broke up for a reason but i promise it does get easier.
2006-10-02 00:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋