Guys tell me that I'm hot and kinda look like Angelina Jolie (I don't really see it but I guess its cuz of my eyes,lips, & hair) BUT the problem is I can't find any worthy guys to date. They all seem nice but in the end they just wanna try to get in my pants, but I wanna save sex for marriage and most leave cuz I won't put out. Why are guys so obsessed with sex? I'm a smart, pretty and fun girl but where are the real men who just wanna get to know the real me and not just try to get me into bed?
When has virginity been such a bad characteristic in a girl?
2006-10-01 16:59:35 · 22 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Preach to the choir sister. By this tyme, you should be able to sift thru the BS. I have the same problem. Just put a space between you and them at first, evaluate them in small tests, like light flirting and premeditated questions...I know it sounds like you are catching prey or something, but your sanctity is well worth it. Be a good girl, get ya girlfriends to meet him, and take things slooooow....You'll be fine, just be safe.
2006-10-01 17:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by CuriousAfri 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men reach their sexual peak around 17, so at the age of 15, 16, 17 18 & 19 men usually think of one thing and that is sex. I think the best thing to do is explain on the first that you are saving your virginity until marriage. There are many men out there who will respect your wishes so just keep looking. Not to sound dirty, but you might want to give your boyfriend a hand job or even oral sex and still save yourself until marriage. Sex is a very strong urge for young guys to control and helping them to achieve an orgasm would relieve much of his sexual tension. I know that won't help you, but that is your decision.
2006-10-01 17:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you're a virgin. Just b/c you're a virgin, doesn't mean the guy will want to wait until marriage to get it. Being a virgin might be a value to you, but to others its nothing. Really....now in days, noone waits until marriage. You are looking in the wrong places. If you meet a man in a bar, he's not going to expect that he got a virgin, whose will only fool around when they are married. It might also be sending another message to the men you date......You are looking for marriage material. And that can scare a guy, especially if you are on your first date.
2006-10-01 17:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong sweetie; it's a cherished characteristic in a girl. Unfortunately, the guys are hormone-driven, and most have lost their virginity long before 20.
But the really nice guys have been rejected by the other girls as 'too nice" nerdy" goofy, too smart, and a lot of reasons. They tend to get shy, and reclusive, so you have to work hard to ferret one out. Keep looking. One day one will not want to get in your pants on first date.
Try church groups; you might find one there
2006-10-01 17:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've BEEN meeting "real men" and because you won't "put out" you both lose... You may not agree, but you ALONE do not define what real men are, and (young) "real men" define having sex BEFORE being married as essential... to be "real men"
If you meet who what YOU think is a "real man" and he waits until you're married before you have sex with him then my guess is you'll find you married a guy that likes to hum "show tunes" and there was a (true) reason why he could wait to be married BEFORE he had sex with you and that is because he likes... YOUR BROTHER!
You might be too stern a taskmaster, if you are, then you will find panty-waisted servile "kinda men" who will serve you...
2006-10-01 17:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by Number1son 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I regret having sex before my marriage, save yourself! Once you give it away, you can't get it back. Try group dating, have another girlfriend and yourself hold each other accountable for staying out of situations that you wouldn't want to put yourself or another guy in. You will have more fun in groups, it will help relieve the pressure you may feel as well as the guy that you like. Guys will respect you more when you demand respect from them, they will treat you like the respectable girl that you are and it will make it easier for them to be a gentleman. I applaud you! I know you will find a man who kept himself for marriage as well. I will keep you in my prayers, this is the way God intended it to be.
2006-10-01 17:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by smily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off , u have 2 look at yourself do u behave in any provacative ways, most women do and do it well now as far as the virginity thing goes u see what happened 2 jessica simpson, need i saw more she became a sexed crazed maniac , but then she realized it was not all worth it afterwards, i say become a nun and stop whinning and i dont think jolie is hot she is way 2 boney.
2006-10-01 17:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That true all guys want only sex, i said that u have a good dsision keep sex for marriage coz if u done all the things now but arrived the day of marriage u would say : i have already done all that , it won't b as excited as it should has be...
2006-10-01 17:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by giri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you are sending off the wrong signals. Or, you could simply be choosing the wrong kind of guys. What you should do is be straight up with guys when you notice them becoming attracted to you State firmly that you do not wish to engage in sexual play until you are married. The ones who only want sex will be gone as soon as they realize you mean it. The ones who stick around may be worth waiting for.
2006-10-01 17:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way: what you put out is what you get back.
The "virgin" thing is not the hook, honey, you are the hook. Do not divulge that you are a virgin. It's not important up front. Especially if a guy is interested in you for WHO YOU ARE, not what they can get.
You will be able to tell the difference between a guy who cares about you and one who wants to get his board waxed. Unfortunately, you gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find one, just one, prince.
2006-10-01 17:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋