This is the longest question ever, but I would really appreciate and honest truthful answer, thanks?

Question

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I’m 15, this girl is 13: ITS only 2 years

A few months ago, me and this girl were really close, we would talk and flirt all the time, and this went on for a while, well eventually people started talking about us, being so close, and wondered if we were dating. She started backing off big time, and seemed like something was bothering her. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said idk maybe. I took it as a nice way of saying no. Well she told her friends she just doesn’t know, because I’ve liked many different girls b4, and she just want to see if I could stick with her for a while. Well months passed, and we got further and further away. I wondered why? Well she and her mom are REALLY close, so I asked her mom. Her mom said she was just really scared, because we have been friends since age 7. Well then she told her friends she just doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. It got to the point were I couldn’t stand it anymore. So I emailed her this about a month ago


can we please talk??
I've got to tell you something, because, well, i just got to know.
I really like you, alot. And it seemed like you used to like me. But now, it just seems like you are really really trying to avoid me. I mean, i know youve been busy and all with swimmin, but like since carrowinds, we havent talked, barely any , at all. It seems like you just dont care about me. I mean, i feel so confused, because, for some reason, you just stopped talking to me. Why? I mean, are you trying to get me to take the hint? Or what? I mean i really dont know what to think. Tell me anything, tell me that you hate me, just please please be honest. Remember that thing at carrowinds, guys cant stand when girls beat around the bush? Well, if you dont like me, please just tell me straight up. My feelings wont be hurt. And if you do, but just arent sure, just tell me. I wanna be there for you, I want you to be able to trust me, and be able to talk to me, about anything

This is what she replied

hey,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later.





This is what I replied



hey!!. thanks for being honest with me. I really value our friendship too, and if you don’t feel comfortable, because of ruining the friendship if something were to happen, that is cool with me.




Now to me, that sounds like two things (1) she doesn’t want to ruin a friendship, cuz we’ve been friends since age 7 or (2) shes just letting me down easy. But now she is flirting with this other guy, like she used to do with me. But she seems more comfortable around me than she did before. But when she sees that I am not going out of my way to see her, she seems to talk to me more, and flirt a little more, almost like she don’t have me anymore. And sometimes, Ill catch her looking at me, and when I look she’ll look away. And then sometimes, her body language, she just seems sad, like she wants to tell me something, or likes me or IDK what, its just she seems different since we talked about it. But I mean b4 she really seemed to like me, and IDK why she just would have stopped. , I mean I’ve like many girls, just none like this, When I wake up sheds the first think I think about, and the last think when I go to sleep. I just cant let her go.
My question is do you think she was letting me down easy, or is just scared, and what should I do about it? And please don’t tell me I’m too young

Answer 1

i think that if you really care about her--and you seem like you do--then it doesn't matter if she's 'just letting you down easy' or if she's 'just scared'--she told you that she just wants to be friends. and if she told you that, then you should respect what she told you. i know it's hard, i've been in a similar spot, but you need to just get over her. and if she really wants to be with you, she'll let you know in a way that you don't have to, like, decode or figure out.

Answer 2

Well you might have been peers for many years and now you two aren't particularly kids anymore. Things at the moment are specific, probably you each query if the friendship you had earlier than might be appropriate now that your horizons are increasing. Maybe she feels uncomfortable approximately any new emotions she could have for you currently. She used to be at ease whilst it used to be less difficult. At the identical time she would possibly not understand how to continue. You are each teenagers, want emotions expand, and sure it may be frightening. She might be gambling nontoxic. The first-class factor so that you can do might be to only be there for her. Tell her that you're and continuously shall be her buddy if that's what she needs. Respect her needs. If she begins "flirting" with you, she would possibly simply be looking to trap that pleasant feeling you each had earlier than. Don't simply anticipate that she needs greater than peers. I am certain that while you two had been more youthful you used to funny story and tease eachother, her flirting might be a amendment of that. Unless she tells you that she needs to be your female friend, do not anticipate something else. Go on together with your lifestyles as her buddy and maintain your brain open for different chances.

Answer 3

This is how I feel about your situation. I think that she may like you, but she isnt sure and she just wants to keep the friendship as friends because you two are young (not too young), but young and maybe she doesnt want to end up getting hurt and the friendship be ruined, or she end up hurting you and the friendship be ruined. Just stay friends with her, and find someone else for the time being. Just be there for her like a great friend and maybe one day you and her will be together like you want it to be. Just give it time. Good Luck. and hang in there.

Answer 4

Dude, first of all, you're entirely too wordy. Are you like that around her?

Second, watch the movie "Hitch."

Third, yes, she is unfortunatley giving you the dust-off and no matter what her body language says, you have to give her space. I totally know how painful it is. At 13 and 15, maybe more for girls than boys, crushes come and go so fast - at that age it's really not a forever thing.

Give her space, be friendly to her, and see if she comes back around. But don't crowd her and don't email her unless she emails you. In fact, be alittle unavailable. A little distance can do a lot of good.

Answer 5

It's a toture to have someone u love treating u like tat. But I guess you just have to act as normal as possible. Meaning act not interested into taking the relationship further. Sometime even reject meeting her say tat u are busy, when she ask u out. This might reverse the situation u are having now.

If she dun have any reaction from this, maybe she's really just treating u as a friend and not wanting to take it a step further.

Answer 6

you are not too young but she is right now, you were friends from age 7, at this time i think she likes you but she is scared and not old enough to think about you as a boyfriend, my advice is to remain friends only for another year or so, and see if she gets a little more mature and then you can ask her out for a function like skating with other friends, or a party ,bowling with friends....be patient and see what happens

Answer 7

i think she may be scared. i know this isn't about me, but personally i would be nerve-wracked to get involved with a good guy friend of mine. i mean, i've worked so hard to build a great friendship with this guy, why would i want to ruin it just like THAT?

also, she might be scared she'll mess something up. i can't tell you what or why, maybe she's just freaked out she'll do something wrong and scare you away.
but from what i've read, maybe she's stuck on you like you are on her. give her some time, and it'll work itself out, trust me :)

Answer 8

she might be scared. you have been friends for a long time.now if you start something more than being friends, she might be afraid that it wont work out, you'll split and simply wont even be friends any more,you'll just lose each other. give her some more time, hang out with girls and observe the way she reacts to it...if you notice any signals she likes you, talk to her again, but this time face to face, its much better...

Answer 9

I'm not saying either of you are to young. She may be feeling like a) she's too young for you or b) she doesn't want to lose the friendship or c) she's maybe going to be a tease.