I wasn't sure which section to put this in, but I'm serious. I had abuse issues a long time ago with an ex, and since then I've had one committed relationship, but I keep wanting to engage in intimate activities with random guys I see. I'll have to stifle this urge to break up with my boyfriend just so I can indulge. In the end I win the inner struggle, but it's starting to worry me. I can't tell if I have commitment issues due to my past or if its just that he's not the one, or if I have some sick obsession with sex.
I know its a strange question, and it might not sound serious, but I really really AM serious. So if anyone with psychological know-how reads this, I would be appreciative.
2006-10-01 16:49:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
The great thing is that you have noticed and realized that your behavior is a problem. That, in itself, is the first step to rehabilitation.
Now, the problem. It's not nymphomania, because you are still able to stop yourself before you commit the act. However, it could lead to a form of such if you don't seek treatment now.
Abuse, no matter if it's sexual, physical, and/or emotional is terrible, and it's terrible that you went through it. But, there is hope, and there is help out there. I went through it too, and it caused serious relationship issues. The reason why you are wanting intimate relations with just anyone is your need for revenge and satisfaction against your ex. No number of relations is going to give you that satisfaction. You need to understand that.
The best thing for you to do is seek counseling. A counselor will help you internally solve your fears of commitment and deal with your projection of anger, sadness, and depression as you have attached them to the action of sex.
Good Luck!
LilD
2006-10-01 16:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by lildansr_23 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please know this: Many people with rough pasts have committment issues. The more serious the relationship the more 'flight' you want to have right? There are some good subjects on this at http://www.talksexwithsue.com
There is no such term as Nymph anymore, and the only other issue is 'are you obsessing about sex to the point of interrupting your day'? Like stopping to masterbate instead of class - repeatedly? If not, then rule out Sex Addiction and know that it's probably psychological and either it's the guy or you. Seek professional help, as we won't be able to help you in a post.
2006-10-01 23:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by replies2news 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
having commitment issues does not give you the erge to be with others sexually, you may just need some time to be you for a change without someone to " control" you.... meaning you got out of a bad relationship and are now in a different one.... you maybe did not take enough time to heal from the last one.... and furthermore, an obsession with sex is not necessarily sick..... if you are wanting kids, power, or strange relations, then i would maybe worry, but if not i say let it roll, but always be careful...
2006-10-02 00:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by who be boo? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby please don't do that. I've had the same problem but in diff...t ways. your problem now is you have the power to pick the person you want over the bullsh*t you've been through. doing random guys is not the answer. talk it over with your new mate and tell him you need to get help finding yourself to be the woman you are again. moreover is the fact that you were abused with this overbearing relationship that you were scared to look at another guy\guys that it overwhelmed you and you stayed in your little box. you're doing the right thing by seeking help from strangers because they can definitely point you in the right direction. atleast i can. {silently} Get Therapy}E-mail me
2006-10-02 00:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Denton P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm great with a guy for a while, a month at most. But then, I want nothing to do with him sexually, and everything to do with someone else. I was sexually abused early in life. I go to counselling, but don't know what's wrong. Just please be careful and take precautions.
2006-10-02 00:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by lisacantcook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like your just not that into him.
2006-10-01 23:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by pritty_princess_c 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋