whats the best way to impress an older man?

Question

So I'm 19 and there's this professor in his late 20's early 30's that I'm into. We have so much in common and he's done things that lead me to beleive he has feelings for me too. He's very proper and aways follows the rules so I don't think he would ever intiate anything, though.
So I'm wondering what the best way to approach him is that wouldn't make him uncomfortable or cross any boundries and that would prove to him that I'm mature. What would a man in his position be looking for?
Oh, and can an intelligent man his age truely have feelings for a 19 year old, or would the connection be completely superficial?
Just so you know, I'm not doing this to get a good grade or anything, I just really like him.

Answer 1

You..., my little history hussy, are this year's "flavor of the month"
Ask him who was he giving "good grades" too last year, and the year before that, and previous to that? He is a PROFESSOR, for chrissakes, he gets paid little because the "fringe benefits" are SO great! Can you, at 19-years of age keep up to him intellectually? It would look hilarious if you tried! When he is about 40-45 years of age, he'll actually have to look at his "body" of work and not anymore at "student bodies" (Ask yourself: Just how OLD a guy would you f*ck?) My guess is you'll probably say 32 years old MIGHT be your limit. And also, if you ever thought of MARRYING this guy, wouldn't you wonder which of his female students is earning "extra credit" the next year the old fashion way..., like you did..., on your knees or back!

Oh, but I forgot... you REALLY are "into" him as a person... And who will be "into" him next year? Chances are, you won't be...

Get your "A" and get off him... You'll see what he thinks of you...

Answer 2

I'm not a male but was a JW. To sum it up you need to know how he has been raised. The Jws are a cult and demand absolute allegiance to their strict rules, They are against higher education, no sex before marriage etc. In your boyfriends case he must feel He has to stay in the religion cause if he leaves he will be shunned. He probably was refused to further his schooling or his career. Probably told to not pursue it, like most Jws they follow the advise either wise they will come across as weak spiritually. He also probably dated you and not a JW because of sex. Your a safe haven cause its very hard to get caught having sex with a non believer. If you were a JW girl and fell into temptation you would feel guilty and go to the elders hence he would be disfellowshipped. You wouldn't do that :) so he can have his cake and eat it too with you. If he sticks around with you he will try to get you into the cult cause his family will shunn him if he stays with you but if you study and become a JW all will be forgiven. The guy is stuffed, he probably doesn't mean to hurt you but his stuck, he is not allowed to be want he wants to be. I suggest reading combat cult mind control by Steve Hassan and get him out of the cult personality. It is suffocating him. Research the Jws and watchtower and see how manipulative they are then you can understand him. Ps ask him if his mum is disfellowshipped and if that's why he doesn't talk to her! I find him hypocritical as he is having sex before marriage yet he seems to be pointing the finger at his mum. Maybe tell him that Jesus said cast the first stone if your not a sinner. It sounds like he is mentally screwed.

Answer 3

Are you a student and is he your professor. Or are you mentioning his profession just for background information? If it is the former and not the latter I would not pursue a relationship with my professor. The situation could prove to be very awkard for the two of you; the boundary line of student/professor has been crossed. If he is truly interested in you, and he doesn't flirt with a new student each semester, you should allow him to make the first move. Think long and hard before you make the decision to become involved. Remember if it doesn't work out---those looking from the outside will only remember you and what you have done. Your adorable, and irrestible professor will fade away in the background.

Answer 4

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whats the best way to impress an older man?
So I'm 19 and there's this professor in his late 20's early 30's that I'm into. We have so much in common and he's done things that lead me to beleive he has feelings for me too. He's very proper and aways follows the rules so I don't think he would ever intiate...

Answer 5

He probably is not the first and won't be your last. Your going to Choo Choo along the track with your body language and every stop you make there is someone out there looking right back at you saying I really like this girl, but they haven't had the guts to walk up to you and introduce himself.

Don't always jump on the first chance you get.

I fished for Large Mouth Bass and I caught a 9 lb Bass. I was so tickled that I wanted to taxidermy this fish for my first trophy and my Father that was fishing with me said that it was a minnow and laughed...stating that I should release the fish and catch a bigger one and for the life of me it was one of the hardest decisions that I would make...and so I did. It was my decision influenced by my Father. Later as the months went by I started to regret doing it and that I may never catch another big one like that again.
So I got back on the band Wagon and this time I am determined to win and catch a bigger fish and I will work harder at it until I get right. Two years later I landed my first lunker 10 lbs and then another and another and it just kept getting better and I now have two 14 lb Bass on my wall to look upon and see what hard work does...it pays off.
So the Moral here like in your case, is that if you must let him go, you surely will catch another one bigger and better:):)
Peace Al Rozz

Answer 6

I suggest you let the relationship continue its course. Discuss relationships and what he likes and likes to do. If the chemistry is there you will gravitate more toward each other. I would not come on strong and suggest you care for him...at least not before you are sure of his intentions.
You should tread carefully here. Do not let your emotions blur your vision and common sense.
Maybe some light subtle flirting but nothing else.

It is very important that you get to know him as much as possible and keep an open mind in the process.

Answer 7

I've been there and done that. It only cost me hurt and a bunch of why questions that never got answered. I was seventeen dating a man who was twice my age and that cost my heart. He wanted sex and got sex out of it along with other girls my age and older women he already knew before me. Please save face and and continue to question why an older man would be into someone your age and not someone his own. Older men to me are attracted to young women whom are maturer and our bodies does help the attraction. Sex is the bottom line which isn't gonna gain you points in the long run too big of a generation gap.

Answer 8

There is very likely a employment provision, that he can not have contact with a student. or at least there should be. You are far to young and way to uninformed to be with this man. You need to complete your education and think with your brain, and not let your hormones lead you astray

Answer 9

esme, you are definitely going about things the right way. i'm a professor too and i respect my profession alot. i'm flattered when girls go out of their way to show their appreciation for me. i have not yet dated any of my former students, but there are a few that i would love to get to know more if the situation came about, as long as they were out of the semester course, and as long as it was them that let me know clearly. i appreciate how class you are going about this. if you want to chat about it more feel free to write me - [e-mail]

Answer 10

Lol! Yeah...most 30 year old guys have 'feelings' for 19 year old girls. Mostly below his belt buckle.